why is it possible to be married,be surrounded by people, and still be lonely?

Answer 1

Sometimes be surrounded by people can be the loneliest place to be.
when people are not giving you any attention
or paying attention to your feelings or just taking an interest it can be very lonely
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Answer 2

Several reasons are possible:
You may be having trouble communicating with your spouse and feeling as though you are not connected emotionally.

There is the possibility that you are clinically depressed - and that is not something that you should feel "ashamed" of! When people have a broken arm they go to the doctor - but when they are having trouble with their emotional state they are treated like they are somehow "wrong" to even consider seeing a professional!

This is BS, plain and simple - the saying "It's all in your head" is actually TRUE when it comes to clinical depression! It is caused by imbalances in the very chemistry of your brain and can be treated.

Go talk to a professional councilor to see if the problem is between you and how you communicate with others. If not, look for a doctor who can recommend treatment with a specialist.

And asking questions in the first place is a great move - keeping it inside would only allow the situation to get worse.

Answer 3

Because you're a good person! I know that sounds strange, but listen...

You love/like the people you are around and the person you are married to. However, they are not meeting your needs emotionally. Yet, you stick around because you don't want to leave because it would hurt the other person and you're probably attached too. But, you need to stop and put yourself first for a change. People grow and change with time. Sometimes, unfortunately, it's apart not together. Find someone/ some people who do meet your needs. Oh, and most importantly, give Jesus a call. He's always there and is the best listener that I've ever known.

Good luck and warmest wishes!

Answer 4

Yes! I have three children,a husband and a granddaughter living with me, and sometimes I feel like the lonliest person on earth. It's probably when I'm having a down time, but now and again I think that only I can understand me, and that I will never really know my husband, because only he knows what he's thinking. He never seems bothered by things like me, and he doesn't seem to notice when I'm being quiet and withdrawn. My family do miss me when tea isn't ready, or their washing isn't ready, or I go absent for 15minutes, but apart from that I don't think they notice if I,m low or not . What a miserable person I come across as. No wonder my husband doesn't ask me about my feelings. Do you feel like this, or have I totally got the wrong end of the stick.

Answer 5

The answer to your queston is "Yes", you can. "Loneliness" is an "inner" emotion or "state" of your inner-being, and a person who is lonely will be lonely no matter how many people are in your presence. You are lonely because something is lacking in your life...something is unfulfilled and you're not satisfied with your present state in life. If you don't "mind", I'd like to recommend that you sit down in a "solitude place" where you won't be disturbed, and open the Bible (KJV), and begin READING it, beginning at the Gospel of John, which is the 4th book in the New Testament. Trust me...I promise that you will be surprized how much you will enjoy the words that you read, and moreover, that your "loneliness" will without a doubt begin to "disappear", and you'll wonder where it went; and even question yourself as to why you never read the Bible earlier in your life...because its' pages will replace your loneliness with genuine "joy".

Answer 6

hello. I will tell you one reason why. I am an At Home Dad of 3. my wife has the better paying job of both our jobs, so fair enough, daycare not desired, I get to be the one raising kids day to day (she IS involved). I am surrounded by people-neighbors at home like myself, with children. It is sometimes nice to have social time with these people, however, they are also married, so both sides are limited in our options. I have lonesomeness. But it is NOT a lonesome feeling I wish to get rid of at the expense of my family. that would just be stooopid.
I don't know if this makes sense to you, but my wife and I are lonesome because we are surrounded by others, but would rather just have time to be alone with each other.
I do see where the feeling could be mixed up with Just wife or Just husband feeling lonesome in a crowd. We talk to each other (wife and I) , so we know it isn't just she or I that feel the lonely. It is both, but not because of both.
We also have struck a deal that allows her to have a Girls night out, and me a Guys night out. One condition-as husband and wife, we keep THAT (sex) part Sacred,and honored.We do not fool around on each other. We are for each other, respected and oldest friends, afterall. I love my wife, even beyond the lonesomeness her abscence will cause. i would be an A**hole and so would she, to destroy so lucky a chance in life we have been given to have each other,by going out and 'tomcatting' on her. That is selfish mean and wrong. A man is his character.
So perhaps you are confused in that way? Most of all talk to your mate about it-not some stranger.

Answer 7

loneliness is perfectly normal. Its part of the human experience. Just remember there's nothing wrong with you at all for feeling that. Its a mysterious thing to have consciousness. Scientists can't explain it. So if you feel lonely, wrap yourself up in it. Try to delve deeper into yourself and open up to other people more. It helps a lot. Take care. And remember, everyone dies alone so enjoy others while you can because one day it all ends.

Answer 8

It may or may not be the answer you're looking for, but it is a craving for God. If you're not trying to hear that, then know that you're craving something that no material possession or physical presence can fulfill. I'm sure you didn't marry just for sex. If you pay attention, there were a lot of celebrities who committed suicide becuase they still didn't feel fulfilled after all the fame and fortune. They didn't know God. I'm telling you. Talk to someone who has a strong relationship with God, and I promise you're life will change phenomenonally. I beg of you. PLEASE don't go to any psychriatrists or anything that's going to diagnose you with depression and fill you full of pills. All that will do is temporarily remedy the symptoms, and you'll just have to be dependent on pills and supplements for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

the lonely feeling comes from not being able to identify and associate yourself with the people around you, this could be due to many things. You could be too busy to spend the time with those people, or you may have come to take them for granted and no longer value their presence. It could also be a form of depression.

Though if these people are truely people you love or loved then I would say its a form of depression, don't get worked by this, it happens alot. There are alot of possibilities, I can't give you real advice with the limited information and my lack of medical training, see your GP.

Answer 10

When I have a question such as this that I dont have the answer for, I try asking it to myself in a new way that I havent thought of.
Sometimes that gives me the answer.

Try asking yourself what your life would look like if you werent lonely. Who is around you? what are you doing? what is different about your life? Maybe that will give you some clues as to what the problems might be.

Answer 11

it might just be that you re surrounded by people whos not your type. its kind of like a little kid at a family reunion, he would be surrounded by people but he would still be lonely unless there are some cousines around his age or with the same interest around him