I'm going to my Senior Year of High school and I'm planning to go to a 4-year university. My boyfriend and I plan to get married, but I want him to go bak to school to continue with his education. he graduated a year ago and I want him to continue his education so when we get married I won't feel like I'm smarter then him. I want to feel that we are equally educated.
2006-07-20 07:30:57 · 38 answers · asked by Nanners 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
oh get a life...it does not mean you are smarter than him!!!
2006-07-20 07:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to marry him then you have to be honest with him tell him how you feel. In the same token you have to accept him for him and not change him or he will losse respect for you. So what if he doesn't want to go back to school you do you and let him do him. The question is can you accept him for him high school education and all.
2006-07-20 07:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by xcstbabygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Equal education' is a dream, a chimera. If you love your boyfriend less because of what he is rather than what he might be, then you don't know the meaning of love.
Why should you 'want him to go back to school'? Why does it matter that you are 'smarter' than him? What makes you 'smarter' that you spend longer in formal education?
Please get real and understand that people are who they are, not who we would like them to be. If you need to be the controlling little woman behind the man, then I suggest you find a new boyfriend.
2006-07-20 07:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and find out what he wants to do. He may not need to go to college. There are many other things he can do to get smart and why spend the money if he wants to do something that does not take a lot of money. The other thing I have to say is I make more money then my husband and on certain things I am smarter then him but you know, in the end it does not really matter.
2006-07-20 07:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Molly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I can come at this in differ ways . first school is Important and in most cases you have to have extra education to land a good Jobs. But i Quit In the 9th grade went back two years later and got a GED and that's it . Now I'm a sales Consultant For a Billion Dollor Company. So find out what he wants out of life and what steps he would have to take to get there take one step at a time if you skip you could fall.
2006-07-20 07:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by drbbrasco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember education doesn't make someone smart. What is he doing if not going to school? Is he even interested in going back to school? Talk to him tell him how you feel and see what he wants. You can't force him and don't try the "If you love me you'll do this" because that pisses a lot of guys off.
2006-07-20 07:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jake S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women always feel like they are smarter than men, kidding. I think you should just tell him that as a condition of you both being married he needs to go to school. His parents will love you for this. And he'll thank you later.
2006-07-20 07:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by cancerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty works.
You can also appeal to his desire for stuff... just show him charts of earning potential differences between high-school graduates and university graduates.
Remember, jobs that were available only 10 years ago to high-school graduates now require at least some level of post-secondary (whether technical, trade, or college) so it really is in his best interest to go.
2006-07-20 07:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him but accept his decision cuz you marry the person not their income. Being smart can happen even with no college. Being smart and being educated are not the same thing. I can spell better than some teachers my children had. My brother says dating sites are full of stuckup people who will only take guys who are making alot more than he is. They're not looking for love. They're looking for money.!
2006-07-20 07:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in the same situation, my girlfriend acutally just broke up with me because i havent applied for college. I would say dont get angry about it...just show him what furthering his education can do for him. But sometimes college just doesnt work for some people, tech schools are always good. They arent as pressured as colleges can be, it would give the student a more relaxed atmosphere.
2006-07-20 07:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it would be in his best interest if he attended college. College graduates make four times as much money (on average) than non-college graduates. In order to provide a nice lifestyle for you (and any possible children), he should definitely go to college. By saying it this way, you aren't making him feel inferior to you; you are just alerting him to the fact that your lifestyle could be even more comfortable if both of you had college degrees.
2006-07-20 07:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by BabeeOreo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋