I am in deep $hi+ i am 21 maried to a great guy but he was out of town to go see his sister who just had surgery i didnt go cuz be and her dont get along but any way while he was gone i got lonley and board and i called my friend eva and her man jose [they are both mexican]to come over and she got paged to go to the hospital cuz of an emergancy[spellcheck] and so me and jose went out and got hammered and then we went back to my house and ended up having sex with out a condom and i got pregnant and it is his baby cuz i am about a moth along and this happed about a month ago. my question is how can i convince my husband it is his baby ? also What do I do?
2006-07-20 07:30:37 · 27 answers · asked by gothicshadow2008 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
WE WERE Drunk
2006-07-20 07:39:03 · update #1
my husband was gone for a week
2006-07-20 07:42:37 · update #2
i am irish and italian he is italian
2006-07-20 07:50:12 · update #3
i wont lie but how do i tell him
2006-07-20 07:53:33 · update #4
no possibilitys it is my husbands cuz we had not had sex a month ago but we had sex right when he cam home but iwas already preg
2006-07-20 07:58:16 · update #5
If you love him, you will not try to convince him it is his baby. Honesty!
2006-07-20 07:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by clem_tech 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest to your husband, and friends. Dont lie to him, first of all that will only cause bigger problems in the marriage then what you think. And if you cant be wonam enough to tell him, thats sad. Its going to be hard to admit you were unfaithful, but let it be that, otherwise you have to live the rest of your life looking at your husband and know you cheated on him and had someone elses baby. Not to mention, the baby will look like your friend Jose
Good Luck
2006-07-20 07:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Katie not telling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a horrible person, but human. We are all humbled by our mistakes. I would suggest you don't compound one mistake with another. I know you know right from wrong. We all do. It would not be fair to your husband to mislead him. Give him the opportunity to decide what to do with reality. Give him the benefit of the doubt that he can and will make rational decisions based on his love for you. Even though alcohol may have clouded your decision making ability at that particular moment now you need to think clearly. There are people who can carry a lie to their grave. There are some deceits that might be left uncovered. If this infidelity resulted in the conception of a child your husband, Jose, Eva, and this new life all deserve the respect of knowing the truth. Do it out of your Love for them. Wade through your fear of repercussions. The reactions of each of the involved parties may not be something you want to have to contend with but the true consequences of your poor choice is This Child.
Decide on Love. Don't let fear cause you to continue making faulty decisions.
2006-07-20 07:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should not lie to your husband. You have to think further than that anyway- you wouldn't just be lying to him, but to your future child, your friend, her bf.... one lie = 1,000,000 more. You don't wanna go there. In my opinion, I try to live my life with the mantra that "the truth shall set you free." Well, it will, but you need to understand and be willing to accept whatever may happen.
Yes, obviously he very well may leave you. BUT, he may greatly appreciate you took the initiative to be up front about the situation, and he may want to adopt the child as his own... maybe. You won't know what will happen until you commit to either the truth or the lie.
Also, piece of encouragement: you just told about a billion people what happened. Why not trust the man you love and said "til death do us part, for better or for worse??"
You are definitely at a life-changing fork in the road... I wish you and your family the best.
2006-07-20 07:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Adje J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do our moms say... "Honesty is the best policy..."
You need to tell both of these men AND your friend the truth. What you did was wrong and now there are consequences to deal with. I suggest marriage counceling if your husband will even consider it after this point. But you cant lie to him and tell him it is his child knowing its not. Its not fair to you or this innocent baby.
Get a paternity test once this baby is born so you know 100% for sure.
2006-07-20 07:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put yourself in this position and it was really stupid.
Don't make it worse by lying.
The truth WILL come out someday. It always does
Too damned bad you were lonely and bored.
You sound very immature. Sorry if the truth hurts.
Another baby for the welfare system I suppose.
All the anti-abortion freaks can all take a deep breath, but I would DEFINITELY have an abortion. You have messed up..........
your life
your "great husband"'s life
your mexican friend
your mexican friend's man,
and the baby who didn't ask for any of it.
Grow up!!
2006-07-20 07:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by LoveMyJacks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this must be a total lie. im sure your making this up for attention. listen, if it is true then your stupid.
do not tell your husband that your pregnant with his child. thats lying. and if you and your man aint mexican then your baby will come out dark and he wil start to wonder.
tell him the truth. even if he leaves you. you can go off with jose and have 12 more kids together.
gosh, some people are so irrisponsible.
2006-07-20 07:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if convincing will work. He will probably find out as do most spouses about affairs. The kid could come out looking exactly like the friends spouse.
You need to confide in a good friend other than his wife. There is not one easy answer to this situation but I believe your heart will tell you what to.
Is there any possiblity this baby is your husband's?
2006-07-20 07:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by JenKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW..... . . . . . . . .
First off-DO NOT LIE TO YOUR HUSBAND.
Shame on you for even thinking of that
If your marriage ends over this, you deserve it.
I can't image getting so drunk that I would have sex with someone else..YUCK.. It just proves you don't love your husband as much as you thought you did.
I don't think you can fix this one. What if it is your husbands baby? You've got to tell the truth and let the cards fall where they may.
Good luck,
Your poor husband. How would you feel if he did this to you?
2006-07-20 07:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good luck with that!!! Sounds like you need to fess up to what you did, or he's gonna take one look at that baby in the hospital and go "What the F***!" and that will be that. OH, and trying keeping your legs closed for guys other than your hubby next time, sounds like he can't trust you long enough to leave you alone ever!!
2006-07-20 07:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call Jerry Springer... You made the bed now you have to sleep in it. No matter what you do, you know the true and it will eat at you. You had better tell them and get it over with.
The other thing, You can't love him that much. Even if you were drunk you know what you are doing. You need to get a life.
2006-07-20 07:45:27 · answer #11 · answered by Molly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋