What will the boy become if his life started like this?

Question

A woman marries the man she loves, they will have a baby but suddenly they divorced before the child was even borned. The father marries another woman. The first wife has a hard life to raise the little boy. The grandparents aren't what they must be, the father sees hiim only 4 times in the childs life. The mother works hard but that makes the boy be mostly of the time alone. School is hard for him, some teachers are a nightmare and the classmates are making fun of him. His mother has to leave him with her sister to find a place to work in an other country. The father makes a lot of promises but he doesn't keep them and has other 3 children. Now the boy is seeing his mother more rarely. How would the child developes his behaivoir and personality? I saw this story and I want to see what do you think.

Answer 1

The boy will turn either (1) be a total opposite of his father or (2) be just like him

Answer 2

It would likely be a cold and lonely child that becomes an even colder and lonelier adult. There is no real stability in his life and therefore he seeks none. He will most likely be unfocused and the chances of him falling in with a crowd that gives him the feeling of family that he otherwise lacks would be high. If someone does not take him, and love him as a mother and father should, then he will be the forever loner. And he will most likely die alone and unhappy.

This is the sort of person that tends towards violence as nothing really matters to them any more all that matters was never there. Sociopaths are born this way

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Answer 3

It doesn't depend on what events happen to the boy, it's how the people around him react and how he reacts to what happens.

Some people go through hardship and perpetuate the cycle by living their lives the same way, making similar mistakes. Others will go through a hard life and become tough and bitter, but work hard to overcome their past. And some will take what they have learned and become compassionate and sensitive to other in the same situation. Or any combination of the above. Having a hard time in school is not an indication he will turn out one way or another, sometimes all it take is time. However, I suspect that whatever happens he will have a hard time trusting people and probably will long for companionship.

Answer 4

My guess would be that the child would end up having abandonment issues, always feeling the ones he loves or cares for are constantly leaving out of his life, or never there for them..
He'd become very withdrawn and probably tend to have an "i dont care" outlook on the world.. he doesnt feel he has a place in the world anymore the only stability he had in his life was his mother and now she too is gone.. And i could imagine he'd have trust issues, hard time believing in what people say.. basically id say he'd either be very withdrawn from the world.. or he could gravitate to any male figure that comes into his life trying to build a bond with them to compensate for the void he feels from his father..

Answer 5

He's got terrible role models (remember, he won't understand
why his mother is around).

He'll probably hate his father and grow up remarkably like him.
Mom will have a lot of discipline problems with him.

He'll probably get into a lot of fights, perhaps join a gang more
to have a sense of family than anything else.

That being said, he may also establish some other role
model - almost any sensible adult will do - and avoid a lot
of these things. Teachers, clergy, even the local taxidermist.
It really just takes someone taking an interest in him.

Answer 6

I think that parents should be required to take a parenting class before having babies. Other than that, if the boy is so self-aware, then it is up to him to raise himself. Read, study hard, force himself to excel at school. Self-responsibility is a hard thing to learn, but people need to learn it. It is something that we must surrender to, not something that is taught by an outside presence. Read, do some chores around the house and help mom out. Find a neighbor that he can help. Lots of elderly or disabled people find it hard to ask for help, so if he knows of someone, take a walk over and offer to mow the lawn or something.

We don't choose the family we are born into, but we can choose what we do with our life.

Answer 7

i think it would depend greatly on the boys personality. i would hope that it would give him a strong character. and even stronger convictions. he has seen what type of father he doesn't want to be and he should admire his mother for working so hard and sacrificing so much for both of them. i am sure it is just as hard for her to be away from him as it is for him to be away from her. perhaps he should confront his father and then just be done with him. after all any male can make a baby but it takes a man to be a father. the boy is not alone. a lot of children are in his position. he should study hard, achieve what he wants and go to be a strong and wonderful man.

Answer 8

He may have a heard time developing relationship skills because he has no positive role models to show him how relationships work. On the flip side, he will be very strong and independent, probably an awesome family man when he grows up because he will always want the family and the stability he never had as a child.

Answer 9

what doesnt kill U only makes U stronger. I think he will be independent and self reliant. He'll still develope a personality. Who says we have 2 B like everyone else? Right? Might lead a hard life now but will have stronger survival instincts later and might not trust people so easily. But whats wrong with that?

Answer 10

Well I for one do not think a mother should leave her child at all.
I dont know where you are from but surely you can find work
near home even if its scrubbing floors or doing dishes for a
living.Is your sister a good person to leave the boy with.Any
role models for him? The boy is going to feel abandoned by all
the ones he loves.No,do not leave your child.