okay this guy asked me out and i said i have a boyfriend even though i dont is that mean because i told him i would get back to him if we broke up i was just tryin 2 be nice!!!
2006-07-20 06:38:12 · 13 answers · asked by ilovemybabyboi2 1 in Games & Recreation ➔ Toys
No that doesn't mean that. If he asks after awhile just say I'm not totally into you, we just need more time. If this is first try to get a girlfriend he might be hurt, but if it's his like 10th then it wont be bad at all.
P.S. Your not a bad person if you reject them, or lie like you did.
2006-07-20 06:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by I sk8 4donutz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you thought you were trying to be nice, but it is no real kindness to make him believe he has a chance when he really doesn't. When he eventually finds out the truth, it will hurt him more than if you had just been honest with him in the beginning. He'll feel played and deceived as well as rejected.
2006-07-20 06:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really mean, but, since you're not interested in him, it's unfair to give a guy even a sliver of hope. Who's to say he won't try again if he finds out you're unattached. Mybe next time that tye of situation comes up you could just try one of the old lethim down easy standbys, like, "hey, you're a nice guy, but I'm not interested in having that kind of relationship with you."
2006-07-20 06:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by ccmonty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily mean, but it's definitely not being honest. It would be far more kind to just tell him thanks but no thanks. Don't string him along and let him think he has a chance down the line...that is somewhat cruel. Tell him you aren't interested...that way he'll get over it and get on with his life, and then so can you, with a clear conscience.
Hope this helped.
2006-07-20 06:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're crackin me up. If you don't like the guy. Don't go out with him. Don't make up stuff do be "nice".......in the long run you're behaving like an idiot and insulting the guy who asked you out. Just be honest And why is this question in "Toys"? kinky
2006-07-20 06:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is more mean to lead a guy on who then thinks he has a chance then to just tell him upfront that you don't want to go out with him.
2006-07-20 06:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by JTz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, i think it is ok because i have done that before so it doesnt bother me. but if you really like the guy you should give him a chance
2006-07-20 06:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has already moved on. Why did you lie in the first place
2006-07-20 07:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by msjudy58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about it too much, it's better than saying "sure i'd love to go out with you" and not really mean it.... you should always be honest in dating/relationship issues... it wasnt mean at all
2006-07-20 06:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is mean. it would've been nicer to tell the truth. if he finds out you lied....he will be pissed.
2006-07-20 06:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋