Can i get some of your opinions on the Pros to Gay and Lesbian adoption...Thnks?

Question

Thnks 4 all ur feedback but i really am lookin 4 the Pros of this issue...b/c i m writing a paper on it and im looking for some good points...

Answer 1

My partner and I pondered this question and questions related to it for a long time.

Then we adopted a 4 year old girl (she is 9 now) who had been passed around the foster system since she was a baby. Without a stable home environment (among other, much more unpleasant problems in some of those foster homes), she was well behind in her development compared to other kids her age.

I shudder to think what would have become of her had we not taken her out of that system. And there are tens of thousands of kids awaiting adoption... some of whom never get their chance.

Here's a little story for you.

My daughter came home from school one day and told us a boy on the playground was giving her a hard time about having two moms and no dad. We knew this would happen one day, and this was the day.

So we sat down to talk to her about it, expecting we would have to make her feel better about it. Instead, we had the following conversation, which isn't verbatim, but will give you the idea.

Kid: "XXX was teasing me today about you guys."
Me: "What did he say?"
Kid: "He said I was a freak because I have two mommies and no daddy."
Me: "What did you say back to him?"
Kid: "I asked him if his parents love him."
Me: (surprised) "Why did you ask him that?"
Kid: "I told him that I'm nice to people, even if they are different, because it makes my mommies happy, and that makes them love me more."

The fact is, we have never actually SAID that to her. She must have just picked it up from how we act around other (different) people.

Me: (still surprised) "That's right, you should be nice to everyone, and treat them with respect."
Kid: (rolling her eyes) "I KNOW that, mommy!"
Me: "So what did he say when you asked him that?"
Kid: "He said yea, his parents love him."
Me: "Do you think his parents want him to be nice to people?"
Kid: "I don't know, but he sure isn't nice to ANYone. He makes fun of lots of kids."

She told me that this bully made fun of black kids, asian kids, fat kids, etc., anyone who is "different."

So I put a call in to the school, and the teacher confirmed that this kid was a real problem. My wife and I offered to meet with this kid's parents, but the teacher called back after calling them, and said they weren't interested in talking to us, that their kid wasn't the problem.

The teacher sympathized with me, and told me she (and a lot of other parents) disagreed with this kid's parents.

By the way, our daughter is 9 now, at the head of her class, and is the pride and joy of our lives. Sweet and bright and wonderful, she is. All she needed was a home, a chance, and a lot of love... and my partner and I had those things to offer.

Answer 2

My thing is that I believe a child needs to be able to learn from both sexes. So maybe if two women have a boy have an uncle or a brother that he can play with and learn from, and the same for men with a girl. Parents are so jacked up these days, as long as the kid is loved it's cool but they will need someone from the oppo sex to identify with. I would ask that gay parents don't deny thier child that, becasue of the Parents sexual Orientation(I'm not saying they do). I believe there is value in the opposite sex when it's comes to child raising. Just my two cents

Answer 3

There are so many pros to any loving family adopting children. There are thousands of children in the world right now that need good homes and somebody to care about them. Giving a child a home and to make them part of your family is the greatest gift of love along with adopting an animal because they want love and a family so much. It also adds so much to their lives and opens doors to things like an education, safe home, different views, an open-mind, and so on.

Answer 4

Well...my job involves adoption and child placement agencies. I have to say that as long as the child is in a warm and loving environment. I have no problem with it. I say this because I have seen some scary and horrible situations in both homosexual and heterosexual homes. But no matter what type of family, gay or straight, a child needs love. Bad things can happen in any home setting just as likely as good positive things.

Answer 5

I just don't know why any gay person, blessed with freedom from the robotic urge to breed, would want a child. Ugh! So sorry, I can't think of any pros to having another mewling, dirty, obnoxious, needy brat in your life. I already have a boyfriend!

Answer 6

LMAO at scott!
that deserves a best answer im sure!
I agree with RAND OLPH here that you do need a opposite sex role model in the background somewhere. My only other worry is when they get to school, you know how evil little kids can be at times

Answer 7

Many straight adults were raised by G / L parents who led them well.

Many felons were raised by straight parents ...

A mommy and a daddy is NOT always the best set up for a child

Answer 8

Having parents of Any orientation is better than an orphanage or foster care. Please note-- I am NOT trashing the many thousands of wonderful foster parents, but the kid doesn't know how stable you are. I want people I can count on.

Answer 9

The couple wants to be parents.

Answer 10

challenging aspect research into google it could actually help