she has put on a lot of pounds, promises to lose it but has not
2006-07-20 06:29:20 · 25 answers · asked by mike123456789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no if you really love her then don't leave her. Support her, encourage her and motivate her. Eat healthy meals with her walk in the evenings with her excercise with her when you can. Once she starts just remmeber to remind her how proud of her you are and when you notice even the slightest weight loss let her know about it and once again let her know how much you love her and that you have alot of confidence in her and know that she can do it! Many people in life need a lot of suppoort and find it hard to accomplish goals on their own. You must help her, if you leave her then she may gain more weight due to depression and if you really care about her you don't want to see her down and out. When you really love someone and your a team then it is the other ones responsibiliyt to be strong when the other is weak. Hang in there and be supportive of her. Believe it or notr her weight may bother her more than it bothers you. She may be screaming out inside for help but is too ashamed to ask for it. One last thing I hope that you wouldn't just leave her because of her weight! Would you like to think that she would leave you if you ever got in an accident and became temporarily parylyzed? The reason I say temporary is because her condition is temporary also. The same way she would probably hangin there with you and encourage you that she knows that you can walk again if you try isd the same way that you should hang in there and lift her spirits as you convince her that her weight is temporary and that you love her enought to help her so that she can be happy with herself!
2006-07-20 06:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by paula y 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Instead of saying, lose weight - do the following:
1 - Offer to cook a healthy meal
2 - Remove junk food from the house
3 - Suggest taking a walk after dinner
4 - Work out at a gym together
5 - Lead by example. This is the most important. You cannont expect her to lose weight if you are eating a box of oreos a night.
6 - Explain that you are concerned about her health and want her to be around for a very long time. That is a great way to say "lose weight" but is more gentle and sincere...
2006-07-20 07:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by eyematch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should love her the way she is.Some people, specially women of a certain age, can not lose weight so easily.It's your job to love her for what she is (If you DO truly love her) and by the emotional support that you give her, her her through dieting and such.But it seems to me that you don't love her THAT much. Otherwise you would have never posed this question and would have never thought of leaving her just because she doesn't exactly look the way you want.Instead you would never think about leaving her with this problem.I mean,being fat is foremost just not healthy. Anything else is only secondary.So stick with her and help her through. That's what TRUE friends are.
2006-07-20 06:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by onlyhuman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She promises u,wait.
Weight management and reduction is really a tough thing one has ever known,particularly if one is prone to gain weight quickly and cant manage the eating habits.
Help her to lose her weight instead of shocking her by leaving.This is the most unfair thing if u leave her for her weight,afterall weight is controllable,isnt it.Tomorrow u could be in a similar situation,so what next if she decides the same for u?
2006-07-20 06:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should definitely leave her. Diviroce seems to be a great motivator for women to lose weight. Then she'll get a new job, look hotter than she ever has, and get a new, younger, gorgeous stud of a boyfriend, and you'll kick your butt, cause she'll thank you for leaving her so she could see what a real man was like. You're probably the reason she's overweight anyways, cause you got her pregnant, or just living with such a jerk makes her try to eat away her sadness and hurt. Pig. Go ahead; leave her. Trust me, she'll thank you later.
2006-07-20 10:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You promised through better or worse, in sickness and in health, RIGHT?
Then be a MAN and instead of taking the easy way out, or complaining HELP HER! Get a membership at the gym and go with her, walk together, work out together, cook HEALTHY meals together, put a little effort in to help her, man...
If you can't step up to the plate, then do her the favor of leaving her, you SELFISH SELFISH man.
2006-07-20 06:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you that superficial? I'm sure you aren't perfect, maybe you should try & work together at this if it's an issue for HER, maybe encourage her to go play tennis, walk TOGETHER, be supportive, not critical, tell her you love her just as she is, then maybe she'll want to get in shape for you & herself. do it together, if you don't & she ends up loosing the weight, she will resent you for your approach. I've gained some weight, but my husband has NEVER made me feel like I have, which makes me want to loose it more. he goes out with me & looks around & says I'm the pretiest one there, I know I'm not, I see lots of beautiful woman, but he truley believes I am, which makes me want to look better even more. everyone changes, but it's the person we love, not the body, but you have to make her feel ok with herself & be her soft place to fall, not her weight reminder, she knows, & the stress is making it that much harder. how would you feel if she posted this about you? I know, you'd say you'd loose the weight, but what if you couldn't, what if you lost a leg? would you want her to ask people if she should stay with you because your appearence changed? look at the things you DO love about her, & go from there!
2006-07-20 06:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by cheryl c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing you're not too shallow or anything! Seriously, if you love her, HELP HER! Find some way to get her to the gym. Play rackettball, tennis, or something else that's fun. She is obviously not happy about something.....people who are not happy commonly MEDICATE THEMSELVES WITH FOOD, and lose all energy and motivation to do anything but sit on the couch. Find out what the real problem is, and FIX IT or LEAVE IT.
2006-07-20 06:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you shouldn't leave her. Unless you're a shallow, superficial man. If all you care about is her looks, or people seeing you with her in public....then yes, do her a favor and let her find someone who will love her for who she is.
If you do love her, and want her to lose the weight b/c you're worried about her health...try to help her lose the weight. Go on walks with her, excercise with her, help her diet. Encourage her.
2006-07-20 06:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse, through sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, but I didn't say a thing about you getting FAT.
How much do you really love this woman if her weight is now a problem for you? Encourage her to lose weight for her own health, but do not force her to do so for your own satisfaction.
Personally, I think she should leave you.
2006-07-20 06:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by keats27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋