If you truly love your wife (or a husband for that matter) and she decides to conclude the relationship because she is in love with someone else, Wouldn’t true love mean to want the best for your partner and to see her happy and contented, even if it’s with another person? Wouldn’t it make you happy to see HER happy? Wouldn’t it be selfish to want her to be happy ONLY with you?
2006-07-20 06:22:27 · 13 answers · asked by onlyhuman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are married, and he/she leaves, I wouldn't call it jealousy, I would call it heart break. If they pledged their love to you, obviously you are not going to want them to move on with someone else, even if that's what makes them happy, because they already made vows to be with you. They gave up that option to be with another when you married. If nothing will change in and they leave, you can't stop it, but it doesn't mean you have to be happy for them. I pray you find healing. I cann't imagine being happy for my spouse if he ever did that to me. I'd move on, cause I'm worth being treated special, but it would definitely hurt, and I would take a long time b4 a new relationship began. Best of luck to you, and no, it's not jelousy; if you do something crazy because if it, like slash tires, or crap like that, then yeah, that's wrong. Look at it this way; if they don't value you for who you are, they don't deserve to be with you. And comfort yourself knowing whatever she does to you, will end up happening to her, at some point, some day. Then who gets the last laugh?
2006-07-20 10:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is an emotion that is triggered by insecurity and not always having to do with relationships. I believe by what you have said that a person is emotionally healthy and feels good about themself. I too believe that why would we want someone to remain with us if they aren't happy.....it would be very unfulfilling as well as disrespectful to ourselves. I feel love should go both ways, otherwise one person is left with an empty love tank. How could that possibly make us happy in the long run? I say, good for anyone who can do this.......there aren't many people that are able to feel this way!
2006-07-20 06:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normally thing to feel jealousy especially when the love of your life is in love with someone else. That doesn't make you selfish or anything to that nature...unless you go overboard and stalk her and stuff. But to feel what you are feeling is normal...it all comes with stages...after this feeling you will have resentment and anger...etc...But as long as you don't go overboard then you are perfectly normal...There is nothing wrong with the way that you are feeling. Just keep your head up high and keep smiling.
2006-07-20 06:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetabbygirl27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is only natural to be jealous, but at some point you have to move on and try to distance yourself from that situation. But, you should be happy for her and forget about her.
As far as being jealous, it's not worth your time. She is not worth that. Just let her go and get on with your own life, whether that be alone or with someone else. Quit trying to show that you "truly loved" her. It is over.
2006-07-20 06:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she seriously want out, or is she testing you to see if you really care....It's okay to be jealous as long as you are not obsessive about it (if i can't have you, nobody will)...if you really love her then you need to show her that you love her (jealousy)....but also willing to let her go to be happy if that is what she truly wants....if you don't show any jealousy at all and just let her go, she will not feel like you care at all and she definitely will leave.
2006-07-20 06:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is selfishness and insecurity
If you ended things with a wife....it's going to hurt - don't expect her to handle it well. I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot, you might be hurt too.
Be understanding, but don't tolerate abuse
2006-07-20 06:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unreasonable to expect that one would just "be happy" that the other is happily going back on vows he or she took to remain faithful to one person. It's not selfish to feel great pain at being betrayed and dumped for somebody else by one who selfishly pursued his or her own desires at your expense.
2006-07-20 06:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is a show of extreme insecurity and low self-esteem. It is NOT a loving gesture, but a controlling one.
2006-07-20 06:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOve is time-honored yet anybody loves in a various way case in point:you may love somebody in that way however the guy you adore loves you in a various way. you will possibly be truthful in love yet for him you will possibly be a gadget which he saved utilising.. howdy it grew to become into in simple terms an occasion eh
2016-11-02 10:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an expression of of having no self respect or esteem. If someone is "jealous" they are really expressing something missing within themselves.
2006-07-20 06:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋