2006-07-20 06:20:53 · 30 answers · asked by DJay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know if the partner is male or female. Either way,unless this just began,it's not cause for worry. If it's a sudden onset worry. Just do little things,make time for romance,and dates. Even couples forget that
2006-07-20 06:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to spice things up a bit and see if you can catch his attention. Buy some sexy nighties, new sex toy, massage book, etc Or if you can afford it, a weekend get away. Sometimes guys are stressed with work, finances, etc and it can really ruin their sex drive and abitily to feel affection. MOST of the time it isn't the other partner at all, but something else going on in their life. Also, most realtionships have ebbs and flows/ ups and downs. If things were good all the time you could never have great make up sex!
2006-07-20 13:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by 1hotmama5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the way to attract him/her again as I used to be at the very beginning. I know it is hard, but it is possible. You should not stop trying. Try to find out what is going on. Your partner might have problems that cosing all this troubles. Talk and see what is going on. Maybe your partner has health issues, or problems at work, or anything else you might notice? Some people hide their problems and then it affects others who live with them. So do your best to find what is going on. I am sure that you'll be able to fix it. Good luck!
2006-07-20 13:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Belarus94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be time to move on, sister.
If a man ever stops touching you, holding you, kissing you, or making love to you, something has to be wrong. Either fix it or get out.
Sounds easy. I know..
but.. those are the only options. The 7 years shouldn't keep you back from making a choice whether or not to leave, 7 is better than 17 years of being unhappy or 27 years...so on and so forth...
2006-07-20 13:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i find it so funny, u always here guys complaining that their wives wont put out, or their wives use sex to get their way as far as with hold sex if they dont give into them ect.. but im constantly hearing women complain that the husbands are actually the ones that arent wanting sex.. starting to think their full of it, and just say its us to be all macho in front of the guys or something..
I do know men at certain ages tend to lose their sex drive.. usually men in their 30's .. could be from low testosterone.. but theres no excuse from not being atleast affectionate ..
My oppinion is.. stop doing things for him that u do on routine, stuff he'd definately notice.. cooking his dinner, doing his laundry .. showing him affection.. and when he wonders why u've stopped.. tell him "well the way i see it is, when u decide to treat me like your gf/wife again i'll act like one, but untill then im not going to be your built in maid" being made to feel like a roomate rather then a lover sux, and the only way to possibly change it is to get some back bone and make him realize what he has, he's become lazy , and spoiled and as long as u enable him to get away with out showing u love and affection the longer he's going to not do it..
Good luck..
2006-07-20 13:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of things. If he is willing to talk to a doctor it could be physical and there is radicle help there. SO ask him if he would see a urologists. If it is emotinal, then there are a lot of issues. It could be you are dealing with some problems in your marraige that need to be resolved. If he won't help you resolve it then you may suffer in waiting and silence like a lot of women do whom are married to dead beats. If you are with a man that will work with you and help you resolve the issues you may get past this, if not then only time will tell. All you can do is talk through it but some men are so stubborn and selffish, if your mate isopen minded then talk. Hopefully he is not cheating on you, if he is then his need may be fulfilled elsewhere. SO basically you have a couple of things to look at: infidelity, emotional, physical, and a combination of all. Try to pin point which it is and seek counseling to deal with it, its best if your mate will also along with you.
2006-07-20 13:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Inspire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aha, the 7 year itch. Usually relationships start to falter around this time. Have a discussion about what may be wrong, either change those or work something out in compromise. Try a week end getaway once things are straighted out. Do things you dont usually do together.....spice things up.
2006-07-20 13:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something to spice things up. Get out of the same old boring sexual routine. Maybe he has other things on his mind, job, projects. Are ther kids getting in the way of intimacy? Take a little getaway. Worst case scenario is that there is someone else taking care of his needs. I hope that's not the problem.
2006-07-20 13:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by toomuchtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him... my guy and I were having problems and it took me a while but I found out he was insecure because he thought I wasnt satisified ( i wasnt getting off) Talking is the key to any relationship. If he doesnt want to talk theres something wrong. Dont try to "figure it out" hearing it from him is the right answer... Try to spice it up a little... do something he LOVES. If he rejects you... now thats different.
2006-07-20 13:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by lowclearence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's going on, if is not working then move on with someone that really values you.
It happens a lot, and the best thing is move on, and if he hasnt marry you or ask you about it, I think doesn't worth it.
Sorry is hard, it happened to me once... and i dumped him, I been single for 2 years and trust me now I found my soulmate and I feel soo happy!
Good luck and don't worry, be happy!
2006-07-20 13:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Papayita :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋