2006-07-20 06:05:50 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's quite simple. You can either decide to stay with your jail-bird boyfriend and remain faithful to him, or break up with him and seek a relationship elsewhere.
2006-07-20 06:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by automaticmax 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same way you don't cheat if he was out on the street.
You just don't, now this is the thing, what is he in jail for? and how long is he expected to be in jail? If the answers to those questions = something serious, and a long time... then you need to get out of the relationship.
If he is going to be incarcerated for any considerable length of time, (and I define that as say.... longer than 1 year and MAYBE 2) then you are just cheating yourself out of a life.
Break up with him if you can't have a reasonable expectation of a relationship with him, and no a relationship through the glass on the little phone.... isn't a relationship at all.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
2006-07-20 06:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So him being in jail supposedly gives you an uncontrollable urge to cheat? You can not cheat by simply not having sex or being intimate in any way, with any other individual while you are committed to someone else.
It's all about choice. If you choose to have intimate relations with others, then break up with the boyfriend. Treat others as you'd like to be treated...if you wouldn't want to be cheated on, then don't be a party to cheating on someone else.
2006-07-20 06:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend of 2 years went to jail. We wrote each other alot and talked on the phone. At first it was alright. Then his friend would come over and talk to me. He asked me out one day, I went. We have been together for 5 years now. Yes your boyfriend will be mad, but he will get over it. Who wants a man that goes to jail anyway, I sure didn't. Just move on like everyone else has said.
2006-07-20 06:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by fluff_ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd break up with the guy. Do you really want to date someone in jail? Just let him know that the relationship is going nowhere with him in jail, and that you have to continue to live your life. He probably won't understand, but I'm sure he doesn't understand a lot of things, which is why he's in jail.
2006-07-20 06:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just pay him a visit on visiting day and breakup w/ him if he's gonna b in jail 4 a while cause u don't want to spend like 10 years waiting around 4 some1 who does bad things and might not even b the same after in jail!
2006-07-20 06:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. I had a boyfriend in jail for 4 years, and I couldn't tell you. At first I tried really hard, but eventually, I caved in to my human desires. I just told him that I had been working out, and one night he called and asked if I was still working out and I said yes, all the time, and he finally got the picture. I think he was slightly hurt, but knew he couldn't do anything about it. I told him there is no reason for me to be punished, he did the crime, I shouldn't be doing the time. Good luck :)
2006-07-20 06:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound bad - but my ex was in for almost 4 years - and I managed it because I knew without a doubt where my heart was. We were together 6 yrs after wards - and now we are split again - but after almost a year of him dating someone else and living with her - even though I leave him alone - I dont cry over him - I dont harrass him - but I know where my still is so I just am not interested in anyone else....
If you cant say that - theny ou need to move on and be honest with him and let him go as well....
2006-07-20 06:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bugs_Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this one is easy. You DUMP your loser boyfriend that ended up in jail. Then you find yourself a real man that stays out of that kind of trouble! Then it is not cheating, it is moving on!
You deserve better! Go for it!
2006-07-20 06:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it.... What do you mean, how? If you really care for him, and still want a relationship with him, there wouldn't be a question and it would be easy for you. If you need him around you all the time to keep you from cheating, then there are issues with you and or the relationship and it's time to get out and or get help. Good luck, Matt.
2006-07-20 06:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by adtmatt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there's real love there's no let in anyone touch you that it isn't him. If you cheat you may need to re think how you actually feel for this guy. A women in love could go years without it. If you feel that is a waste of time to be faithful to him then you need to go on with your life without him. Imagine his thinking you are been faithful then when he gets out he finds out you weren't, what's the point.
2006-07-20 06:12:17 · answer #11 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋