I am a tom boy with all guy friends, some older then me some my age, my parents dont trust me at all.
2006-07-20 06:01:57 · 27 answers · asked by Bryn H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 16 and my parents don't trust me at all either,and I have done nothing to loose their trust,so I don't understand.I am not a tom boy but very girly and I only have guy friends,but that's because girls are so mean sometimes and they choose to be jealous of me and not like me.So,did you do anything to loose their trust?Or are your parents just like mine?My parents don't let me hang out with friends either,I can only call them.
2006-07-20 07:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 4⤊ 6⤋
Trust is earned on both sides. So its a two way street here. Your parents have and always will wnt to protect you. That gets harder as your children get older and want more independence.
But in a lot of cases teenagers think they know it all (I thought I did) and honestly don't. Its only when yor older and can look back on your mistakes can you use that experience to help guide your kids.
You need to work at this slowly. Show them they can trust you. Make agreements for where you will be and what time you will be home. Be reasonable and they will be too. So don't start out with I'm going with this guys and wont be back until 11PM... That will fail miserably.
Start with a public place and how at a reasonable time. Your smart you know what is reasonable in their eyes. Then just stick to it or even be early. Keep that up and they will slowly allow you more freedom as you have shown how their trust in you is valid.
Good luck
2006-07-20 13:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not just be you they don't trust and they are right to. I see all these girls on here saying help, I'm pregnant at 12, 13, 14, 15 and so on. These parents of these kids probably didn't care like yours do. It may be that you gave them a reason to not trust you? My sister at 14 had a boy over while my mom was at work and got caught, so now at 17 my parents do not trust her still. She had to stay at a sitter after that. If you want trust then earn it, good luck
2006-07-20 13:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a break, and earn their trust. Hanging out with all guys is usually a huge indication that you are an attention seeker, and will possibly do more than hang out.
Maybe your parents have found YA and have read what kids your age are doing these days. Maybe they are absolutely mortified that girls are so easy and disrespect their bodies.
I've been telling all my friends (who are parents) to read for a few hours on YA before they let their kids have the keys to the car. Things have changed a lot in this neighborhood since then. We don't want our kids to be like the ones here.
2006-07-20 13:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 and a tomboy as well. My parents trust me sometimes. They won't let me hang out with them late at night but if I bring a close girlfiriend along with me, who they know and trust, then they are a little more lenient. Other than that you just have to be patient since you are young and parents are unsure of 15 year old girls hanging out with a bunch of guys because maybe it is the guys they do not trust and not you
2006-07-20 13:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by argishlevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you've done for them to not trust you. If you feel that you have done nothing, politely ask them why they do not trust you. It could be a matter of wanting to protect, not mistrust. Remember you are still young and there is plenty of time to earn trust, and also time to hang out with guys when you are older.
2006-07-20 13:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by jenmfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done nothing not to be trusted, talk to them about it, believe it or not parents can be cool. Ask them straight out why they do not trust you, you may find they do and are just being cautious parents. Many times it is our own fears that cause us to think our parents don't trust us, you may be suprised to find that they trust you after all.
2006-07-20 13:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Alison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunetely trust is earned. Maybe bring around your best friend that's a boy and bring him around to your house to play computer games or a board game downstairs in a room where they can see you... then they will see that you have no interest in this boy.
You can also sit and talk to them about it... I know it's hard. Tell them that they should trust you and why are they so worried when they are the ones who have brought you up? They should have faith in how they have raised you :)
2006-07-20 13:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents do not trust me either but the best way 2 handle it is to have your own independence why dont they trust you
2006-07-20 13:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have done something for them not to trust you. Stay away from those boys will be a starter to gain some trust.
2006-07-20 13:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that your parents don't trust you they also don't trust the guys you are hanging out with. They are only looking out for you. My suggestion is to figure out why your parents don't trust you and then figure out a way to resolve that to regain their trust.
2006-07-20 13:34:31 · answer #11 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋