n i just found out he's been beating himself lately. I asked him if he likes making love 2 me he said yes, but we havent have sex in 4mos. Do u guys think that he no longer interested in me? what should i do? I tried everything for him to make love to me but his distancing himself?
2006-07-20 05:50:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Chances are, he probably isn't cheating on you. If he was cheating on you, he'd still be banging you and the other chick (or guy, I guess) on the side. This type of sexual problem is probably rooted in something else. How is your marriage otherwise? I'm thinking that he has tried initiating sex with you a few times and has been shot down, so now he thinks to himself: "why bother?". I think there is a few ways to approach this. The best is probably to just clear out a night where you both can just sit and talk like adults. NO ARGUING ALLOWED! Let your feelings fly and accept his feelings. Tell him how you feel and how hurt you are, and maybe he will be able to tell you what's going on. The other way, and it has been mentioned already, it to TAKE OVER! Go get what you want. You know what he likes, don't you? Dress up like a hooker, or a school girl or whatever floats his boat and just dive right into it. Show him that you are uninhibited, and that you really enjoy sex...with HIM! Go all out, just let it all out. Really get into it. I would suggest a bit of reading for you. Check out an author by the name of Graham Masterton. He has a few books, namely "How to drive your man wild in bed", and "How to make his wildest dreams come true, in bed". READ THEM. Take control of your sex life and get what you deserve. But really...I think there is something underlying here...and it may not be sexual in nature. See if you can find out. If it is sexual in nature...apply those books! And have fun! Good luck, Matt.
2006-07-20 06:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by adtmatt 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay, when a man declines sex...something is going on with him and it can be a couple of things. It can be the relationship. It could be stress, depression, or something else personally with him. Or it could be medical.
Because there so many reasons...your best bet is to sit down and talk about it. Don't ask him, "Am I turning you off? Do you not want me?" Ask him, "Is there something going on I can help make our relationship better?" Or "Is there something you want to talk to me about?" And then listen. I mean LISTEN without any expectation in return...what you may hear may hurt or surprise you, but just listen. And then when it is your turn...clarify what you heard to make sure you got it. And then talk about it and interject your own thoughts and feelings.
Maybe you can just work it out. It doesn't sound like this is an sex issues...it sounds like it is either a relationship or a personal issues.
Good luck.
K
2006-07-20 05:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should talk to him, and ask him what's going on? and then if he says is work, try to do a get away weekend. take him the lake, beach, pool... some place away from the house.
There's a lot of ways of seduction. Try to seduct him. Give him a nice massage, take him to the movies and star whisper on his ear. Call him to work and tell him you can't wait to see him at night, and make dinner naked....
Get new cloths, buy new creams in fact go to www.sextoys.com and you can get a few toys in there.
Give him "shows" like striptease or play with a toy in the front of him.
I hope this work and good luck I know that feeling except he was my bf and he didnt touch me for 2 months... so I dumped him! I can't live with the rejection, and I felt awful
2006-07-20 06:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Papayita :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Sweetheart it's over! Present that as an option and you will find out that its time to get over him. There is no way that he is not touching something, even if he is doing it himself... Which confirms, a lck of interest. Sorry, but this is the truth. I get busy and caught up with school and work all the time and my wife and I may go two weeks, but never four months.
2006-07-20 05:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by K. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no plm in married nothing what so ever then only plm is sex... willing to go on your life like this???? with out sex? or plm few times and no sex all the time then end it now and if you end it now and it better that way and nothing gets worst later on.
My wife me do you love me? she was crying so hard I told her Yes I do and I work 24 hrs a day and she said I don't think you love me and I think I am going to end this marriage and I asked are you unhappy about about everything or just sex. she said sex andi said so you mean that you willing to give up becaue one thing other things you are happy????? she said no and now we have no plm ever since.
2006-07-20 07:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes Cheating
2006-07-20 06:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by RKF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey its starts out great sex and then it just fades away....I just got out of a marrige of 7 yrs because we didnt have sex for mths at a time and I couldnt deal with it anymore. I tried talking him into getting marriage conseling, it was even free through his job....I called and got all the info and he never would set up an appt. after 2 yrs of saying he would go.....I went instead....we have a 7 yr old daughter...and we fought all the time so.....I couldnt have my child in a place like that.....they say if your not happy no one else around you can be happy.....and I didnt want my daughter seeing me in a loveless relasionship...get him to work on it now or it will be hopeless down the rd.....Good luck!! Email me if you want to talk more....
2006-07-20 06:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious he lost interest sexually - the question is what are you going to do about it?
First, you need to hottify yourself. Work out, get contacts...diet...make yourself hot. It'll take lots of work, and will take time...and will be difficult....but stick with it.
Next, watch porn and learn. Don't try to tell him "you need to be romantic with me" hahaha...because at this point he isn't into the romance. Be a porn star - wear your high heels during sex, attack his C@ck when you give head, let him f#$k you from behind...anal...be vocal...whine...grunt buy a vibrator he can use on you...etc....the works.
Appeal to his need to have sex....and be playful with it. Stop nagging about it, and realize you need to WORK at this for it to fix itself. Sex a few times won't heal anything. Once you get him interested again with the above advice...then introduce softer romance.
Also...don't nag him around the house, or be jealous or controlling. Be happy...make him happy.
2006-07-20 05:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine you may be, yet i'd be incorrect. I recommend, a woman receives pregnant even as sperm enter into her uterus and connect with an egg, and except the sperm did take care of to get into your vagina, i do not imagine there's a threat. i'd take a attempt to verify, yet i imagine it is secure to say that you're only somewhat previous due. Of couse, in case you're many times abnormal, then this can be the reason, yet again, i'd take a attempt only to be sure.
2016-10-15 00:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by tenuta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is another woman because if there was why would he be beating himself, he would be ******* her right and he still has sexual urges so he is not ******* to much but there might be another man or wanting another man why would rather touch himself than touching you. Just a thought.
2006-07-20 06:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by dorleejohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋