I don't have self-confidence.?

Question

I am on the heavy side in weight. I also don't do as much as the people in todays society. I don't like to party or anything really. It isn't the fact that I don't like meeting new people, it is just that I am afraid at first. Like what are they going to say or will they like me? I am a very shy person and I don' think people give me the chance to meet the real me! In my school people know me as the smart kid and a High Honors student I am not really all that smart I just use the knowledge that I had accumaleted over the years. I am a musican and no one really likes the good musicans I am in my school band and I hope to be in the chorale this year and people make fun of me because of this. since I am a musican I perform a lot of solos, but I am scared to know what they might think of me. So I get scared and tend to come to the point of passing out. Sometimes I do pass out others I just feel weak. I want to be normal and have friends. Not saying that I have friends,

I have two friends in my grade one is a boy (my boyfriend) and the other is a girl. and then I have three friends in college. But I am not really close to them. I wish I all of this could just stop. HELP ME!!

I did go to therapy for this because I was depressed and I was diagnosed with depression and I had a phyciatrist and a phycologist to talk all about this and it sisn't help.

I also had a rumor spread around about me and it was horrible it was that I had went some where got pregnant and had an abortion and was not true at all.

Answer 1

You seem very insecure and self confiedent. You should go out there in the world and find things that you really like(for example: i love volleyball, love 2 write which made me start a school newspaper) u should find things you like. If you would like to email me or whatever and tell me things you like i could help you. and you say your very shy well u relly break out of your shell! talk to those 2 friends and relly get to know them then theyll introduce you to friends of theres and youll start to become friends with there friends.

Answer 2

Honestly i know exactly how u feel. Like 2 years ago i was overweight cause i was in a cast for 4 months and gain tons of weight and i would hunch over and have my hair in my face. Now 2 years later i lost most of the weight have my hair out of my face and i am copeting in beauty pagents.
now i have tons of self cofidence still working on it though. Here r some tips that mite help:
*put your back against the wall and that is how straight u should walk ( if u act confident people will think your cofident even if your not)standing up staright very important!!
*dont think when talking to people just talk i know makes no sense but believe me it works dont go like what should i say and think about just say it
*dress nice to school it is how u present your self
* who cares what they think they r not u
*being a musican is a talent so if people r making fun of u just siply smile u will be the bigger person (stik up 4 yourself) also just jeoulus most of the time or they r just jerks
*i had 2 sing on stage about 6 months ago 4 the first time ever by myself i was nervous thinking but then u jut say 2 yourself just do it let the world know your talent if u got it flaunt it
*join clubs and sports
*ask people question that do NOT have yes or no answers
*make it a goal 2 say hi to 5 people u have never said hi to b4 in a wek and increase the number the more cofident u get
* u will blossems everone does just have as a teenager
Good luck i hope this helps u!!!

Answer 3

Get a life and stop thinking about yourself. NEWS FLASH - The world does not rotate around YOU. ARE YOU TRULY LOOKING FOR SYMPATHY?

Honors Student
Musician
Boyfriend

Do you have any idea how many of your classmates would give their eye teeth to be able to sport just one of those???

The only true thing I wish to help you with is the weight. Just eat right and exercise:

Walk 1 hour 6 days a week. On the other day, stretch and do light toning exercises in the gym.
Drink lots of water
No sodas
No sugar
No potatoes
No bread
No corn
No rice
No carrots
No pasta

Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm not a professional or anything...All I can say is enjoy life...
Don't get caught up in those issues, remember that no matter what we do, we can't make all the people happy. There will always be that someone who just does not like you no matter what you do. Let others think whatever they want, as long as you think good of yourself...I know I've given this quote on almost all of my answers but it's true...IT'S NOT WHAT YOU LOOK AT THAT MATTERS, IT'S WHAT YOU SEE...

You are beautiful in your own special way. Let others see the beauty that you have inside instead of the fear for rejection that you show...You can show confidence onto others even if at first you don't feel so confident. They can't get inside your head and read your thoughts...So get over your barrier and allow yourself to love and be loved by others. If others don't see that you love yourself, others will never love you...

Answer 5

I've been in your shoes...except they were more masculine shoes as I'm male. It's been about 10 years since I was in high school but I went to 4 different high schools in 4 years and I was always the new shy fat (300lbs) kid. That doesn't go over well. I had so many mental blocks, I was always afraid of what others were going to think of me so I did nothing. I was miserable. I never did figure it out in high school, it wasn't until a couple of years later that I figured it out. The bottom line is it doesn't matter what others think, if you want to say something - say it - if you want to do something - do it. It's easy to say it doesn't matter what other people think, but it is the truest thing. You can't let other's opinions rule your world - you need to rule your world, you as a person are powerful but when you worry about what other people think you're giving them your power. Get past your mental blocks and be who you are and screw all of them. After all are you even going to know any of these people in 5 years? You've got to start thinking long term, it truly doesn't matter what others think - you know what's real and you need to be real.

Answer 6

Lose weight, dress up, stop acting nerdy, go out there, meet people, and stop caring about whether people will like you or not. I think its more important that you like them or not, and if they respect and communicate with your not- not you're scared of them or not.

If them make fun of you, then they do. So what? The more you care, the more depressed they look, the more they going to take adv of that and tease you. Stand up for yourself, look far and ahead of you instead of the people near by you. Probably dumb your boyfriend too since he isn't really helping you out with these whole confidence issue.

Teens these days are in 2 extreme sides... So sad.

Answer 7

i used to be really self concious i wouldnt go anywhere because i thought they would judge me but then one day i just thought hey why am i wasting my life sitting at home afraid of what everyone thinks of me? people arent better than you and dont let them tell you that. dont be worried about how you look just think that you are probably nicer and prettier than half the people in that room

Answer 8

to me the word "SCARED" is just tempery....
it wont last long like my friends say"if you are to chickened out you wont get the life you want"


get your back straight and be ready to be noticed!^^

being scared is like saying "i give up"

doing what is risky is what the good part is...have fun and be yourself...

Answer 9

there are lots of people think like you... i think you and you like people afraid of being social and this is a psycoligical problem, needs proffesional help..

Answer 10

u need self cofidence