2006-07-20 05:32:56 · 12 answers · asked by kamart1971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kids who refuse to mind are simply pushing their boundaries. Your job is to figure out what is important enough or fearful enough to stop them from pushing those boundaries. This varies from kid to kid and is something you have to figure out for each individual one. Usually though they are pushing those boundaries because they see a weakness in your ability or willingness to stop their behavior. I'm a firm believer in set rules and punishments. Establish the rule/boundary and set a punishment for breaking that rule that is harsh enough the child will eventually decide it isn't worth continuing with that behavior. For some kids just telling them they have disappointed you is enough, for others you have to spank them, and for others it becomes removing items or privileges that they take for granted and cherish. Trust me, a kid who ends up spending the day cleaning floors on their hands and knees as punishment seldom will perform that behavior again.
2006-07-20 05:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's called discipline, something that's missing in today's world.
I don't necessarily mean physical discipline.. I don't use that myself. What I've found is taking away a privilege.. and enforcing that punishment... works best.
My son did not do his chores last week. So for the next 2 days he could not turn on any electronics in his room.. or watch the tv in the living room. (have to be specific.. they find loopholes at age 15). Not only has he done those chores, he's working on the ones for this weekend as well.
2006-07-20 12:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by ladyangelovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure you are consistent when you are disciplining kids. Give the kid a choice and make them understand they get to pick. You either make your bed or you will not watch TV tonight. If he/she does not make the bed, follow through with what you promised. Don't yell or scream, just calmly follow through. Once kids realize you mean what you say they will normally straighten up. The process could take a while to they GET IT... but eventually they do.
2006-07-20 12:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by ???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old the children are. The children must learn that there are consequences to their actions. If you take away TV privileges, and give them back 10 minutes later, or give in when they beg, you are teaching them not to behave. You must follow through. No TV for an hour means no TV for an hour, etc; good luck.
2006-07-20 12:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse psychology. Or counseling. First you need to find the root of the issue, why they arent minding you.
Maybe they act out for attention. Ive found that for smaller children, if you set a time of day to do an activity, like reading a book for example, it calms them down. When they learn that this set of time is for time for them, they dont act out the rest of the time. They learn that that time is their time for that activity.
2006-07-20 12:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Eternal Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I refuse to do anything for them until they do mind.
2006-07-20 12:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by J P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show them that YOU are in power. You can control their every aspect. And respect their wishes as well. When they dont follow the rules, take aways privileges as punsishment
hope it helps
2006-07-20 12:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by xrequiemofdeathx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take something away from them for the day like xbox and if they do it again take somethind else I have three kids thats what we do they'll get it
2006-07-20 12:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a butt whoopin, thats what I use to get when I didn't mind my parents.
2006-07-22 17:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by curiousgeorgina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make them respect you first.
2006-07-20 12:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋