Next month Aug 4-5. I am kind of scared, nervous, let me tell you why. At our ten year reunion. I had it going on, married, new home, new car, 15 years of marriage. Since then I have pretty much lost everything. My husband and I are divorce. I lost the house, I don't have a car. I am single because I am just basically scared of a relationship. I am scared of what my classmate may think of me. I had so much, and not have anything now. I am on my own, my kids are with their father. I told them that I would come. but I am really scared. My divorce was so bad, it lead to 5 years of drinking and druggin. I am now 3 yrs. clean, I work and attend meetings, and I know it will be plenty of acohol at the party. It taking time to build my life back, I couldn't have gotten this far without God in my life. What can I do?
2006-07-20 05:16:55 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. Good P. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you hold your head high..you go to that reunion and you show those people that you are ok!!!!!!!!!!!
alot of people have bad things happen to them and hit bottom..but you know what...you've climbed back up!
that is something to be proud of.
so..go..have fun..and drink water or something else..don't slide back there.
2006-07-20 05:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the reunion and walk in with self confidence. If asked about your marriage, tell them oh it didn't work out, it happens to the best of us. Then ask them how their marriage is going? If asked where are your kids, tell them oh they're sick or had to work or they're on vacation with their dad. Then ask them where are their kids? You may be surprised at some of their answers. They don't need to know all the details of your life, they have their own problems and will probaby envy you for living the single life. You can drink something else besides alcohol and if asked why aren't you drinking, just smile and tell them you like to be aware of your surroundings at all times and alcohol just doesn't do that for you. You will be amazed at how much people will have changed throughout the years. It doesn't matter what they may think of you, they have not walked in your shoes and have no right to judge you. Congrats for being sober and turning your life around!! Good job, keep up the good work!!
2006-07-20 05:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Phil: 4:13 gets me thru any and all things. You will be okay, just continue on what you are doing and you will be fine. Find someone like your sponser and have them go with you. Who says you have to tell them anything anywhy. What they don't know wont hurt them. You may have lost everything, but you are still rich in God's eyes. God will not put anymore on you than you can bear. Be strong and continue on going to your meetings, thanking GOD everyday and read your Bible. You also said you don't have nothing that is not true you have God in your heart, spirit, mind and body. God has something so wonderfully instore for you, just wait and see. Perserverance is a blessing boo. Trust me I have lost a lot too. I lost my apartment, my car and my job. But you know what God has something else better for me. If you believe it is shall come to prosper. Just realized that God has already blessed you, with your life, you're clean and each day you are getting stronger. But, if you are still feel uncomfortable then personally I would not go. If you need to contact me my email address is lavitaharper@yahoo.com. Anytime you can email me and I will respond asap.
Lastly I can send you my fave prayer The Serenity Prayer.
2006-07-20 05:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by VivaciousandSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just attended my 15yr. reunion this last weekend... It's funny how we start to worry about "how our lives look" when these reunions come around... Everyone has ups and downs!!! It sounds to me like you're really improving yourself and you should be proud of that!!! Who the hell cares if you're not exactly where you were 5yrs. ago... As for the alcohol... just keep ordering the cokes and keep telling yourself you're fine. Bring a friend with you if that will help and if you don't think it's a good idea (too tempting maybe...) take a pass and go to the next one... Good luck to you and keep up the good work!!!
2006-07-20 05:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a classmate that had the same sort of life, she showed up and meeting again with friends was good for her. She had a great time and was able to re-establish relationships that have since helped her to become a better person.
2006-07-20 05:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go rent "Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion". I promise you will laugh until you cry... especially in your situation. Who cares what they think? You overcame some pretty serious addictions and managed to stay sane. There will always be people who are ahead of and behind us in life. The important thing is to be happy and have no regrets.
2006-07-20 05:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be the proudest person at the reunion because of being the only one who had not once but twice started his or her new life. Leave the booze and the drugs aside because they are useless distractors and concentrate on your future and new life. Trust in almighty God and may he bless you and protect you always.
2006-07-20 05:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. You don't have to call and you can always tell me that you are busy that day. And if you do go don't worry about it, everybody has bad times in their life. At least you are making steps in the right direction.
2006-07-20 05:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all unique individuals, we should celebrate our uniqueness and share who we are inside. It sounds like you should be proud of yourself for getting clean. Who knows someone may benefit by your experience. Also remember that although you do not want to lie, you do not have to divuldge the whole truth, be selective. AND rememeber it is NOT their place to judge, they did not walk in your shoes. Good luck girl.
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