He acts like we are together when we are at home but once we are out in public or with his friends and family then i'm nothing to him again. And he doesn't know i'm pregnant and I don't know how to tell him.
2006-07-20 05:14:33 · 15 answers · asked by instilleddistress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow! In hindsight, you gotta wonder how we, as humans, allow ourselves to get into certain predicaments. Nonetheless, here you are. The fact of the matter is, you need to know how he really feels before you can make any decisions. It takes two to make a baby and you should not have to deal with this only, nor should he be denied to know he has fathered a child, whether he wants it or not. You really need to sit down with him and have a frank, open discussion regarding what exactly the relationship between you and him is. I would probaby tackle that discussion first before telling him you are pregnant in case that would change the answer he gives. First, you should know his true feelings towards you with no strings attached. Once you know where you stand, whether it's what you wanted to hear or not, tell him about the pregnancy. Be prepared to have him move out (or you) and raise the baby as a single mom if he had indicated no interest. Don't let him stay and try to play house with a new baby because he thinks it's "the right thing to do" if he had indicated no interest in a relationship with you before you told him about the pregnancy. Run through all the scenarios in your head, deciding what you would do in each situation (ie: he's interested in you and happy about the baby, he's interested in you but not a baby, he's not interested in you but wants to be around for the baby, he's not interested in you or a baby, etc). Once you think you know what you'd do in each situation, have that frank, open talk about what your relationship is. Then, tell him and proceed with your decisions based on his responses. Best of Luck to you. A very difficult situation to be in.
2006-07-20 05:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you good at home but like nothing when you are in public Then he probably feels nothing for you and you were probably just sex to him. It's really sad that you have to go through this but you have no choice but to tell him that you are pregnant. Maybe he will be a man about it and you and him can come to a discision about what you are going to do. remember when all is said and done, you need to do what is best for you and not worry about others so much.
2006-07-20 12:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you are in a bit of a spot! That is not cool he's with you at home but not outside of the home he's playing you and you need to realize that. You made yourself to available for him and he's taking total advantage of you. Tell him what is going on and tell him that why does he act different around you when you are at home and in public. I hope things work out. There are guys that are dumb and cant treat women right and then there are guys like me that get the women who walk all over them the world is so un-balanced good luck hope it works out
2006-07-20 12:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a convenient place to park his member. You are a friend with benefits. He does not love you. Tell him you are pregnant and that it is his. Kick him out if possible; why should YOU have to look for a new place? If he doesn't want to go, introduce yourself in public, to his friends and family as your live-in lover. Tell him you want to get married. He'll move out so fast, he'll leave skid marks! Then you take his but to court for child support and have it taken directly out of his check. That way he doesn't have the opportunity to spend it.
2006-07-20 12:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by ibetnoonehasthisdamnid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one, if I were you I wouldnt want to be with that type of guy, you deserve better than that even if you werent pregnant. Never let any man, or anyone for that matter walk all over you, theyll do it if you let them though. You need to tell him, if he wants to be a participant, great, if not, move on, having a child is never a mistake, realize that, i am a mother of two, and honey, what one man wont do, another will!!!!!
2006-07-20 12:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by bmarleyfan26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all u should've known better then to be sleeping w/ur roomate w/out a condom especially u and him didn't cover the grounds of what ur relationship was gonna be... u know guys will say anything to get a lil bit and have there cake and eat it to...
2nd tell him ur pregnant so that u and him can decide what ur gonna do about the child and the living situation especially since ur making it clear that ur his apt chick... u shouldn't have to do this alone...
3rd ur happiness comes 1st, stop allowing him to put u on the backburner when ur in public.. r u the side chick or the # 1 chick...
think about it
2006-07-20 12:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be strong, and tell him. By his reaction you will know what he feels. If you find out that he still doesn't want to be with you try to move on move out, and find a new roommate. I know it's gonna be hard but would you really want to waste you time on someone like that. I met my husband in a similar situation, my son is not his but, he loves him just the same as if he was his.
2006-07-20 12:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by ilovedusomuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off...stop screwin him. If he is going to disrespect you while in public then he isn't worth the pleasure of your womanly ways...
...and secondly, about the baby...well you need to decide what you're going to do. Are you keeping it? Well then you're going to need to tell him. Are you thinking of giving up for adoption? You're gonna have to tell him in that case too... About the only way you won't have to tell him is if you terminate the pregnancy, and that is a huge choice that I've heard a lot of women never get over. Good luck.
2006-07-20 12:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Bch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a convince...that's all.....tell him your pregnant....move out and sue for child support when the baby is proven to be his....why did you not use protection???????? Thats all you may get from him. If you get that.
2006-07-20 12:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by lori26101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REALIZE You are not a doormat!!!! I'd tell him ASAP that you are pregnant for one. Second either you get your own place or put his butt out since he only wants to play house when he wants.
2006-07-20 12:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋