I used 3 paper towels instead of one. He started bitching at me...I said "what the **** do you care". After I said that I realized it was a mistake because he looked like he wanted to knock me out.
2006-07-20 05:09:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes. Most men that hit women are control freaks. Anyone who cares that you used three paper towels instead of one is a control freak.
Sounds like it is just a matter of time.
2006-07-20 05:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by princess 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may not hit you, but if he's bitching at you for using three paper towels, either he was having a REALLY bad day, or he has issues. Is he stressed about money or anything? Look at what's going on in your lives before assuming that "the look" means that he would resort to violence. But for future refence, you might try watching the way you speak to your husband. You can't expect respect if you don't give it.
What is with everyone telling people to leave their spouses????
If every man left their wives every time they had a fight and they got "the look", we'd have a lot of single women in this world. Marriage takes work and he hasn't hit her, so he's not an "abuser". He may have issues, but you don't just leave someone at the drop of a hat. That's why we have such a high rate of divorce in this country is because everybody expects marriage to feel like the first date forever. You people need to grow up.
2006-07-20 12:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by carrie love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have enough information to answer this question. BUT...I can tell that something is not right between you. To get into a heated discussion over paper towels is only the beginning of problems.
Why were you REALLY concerned about how many towels he used? What was the reason behind your inquery? Is it possible that there was another reason but you used the towels as an excuse to pounce?
I WANT YOU TO KNOW I AM NOT PICKING ON YOU! But often when a person "picks" on something trivial like paper towels, there is something ELSE on the stove... - you are mad about something else??
His over reaction also concerns me... why would he be so defensive about your asking? It really sounds like the both of you need to just stop and think what is REALLY going on in your marriage... There IS something out of whack there... Love does not hurt. IF you provoke him over something trivial as paper towels and there honestly is NOT another 'issue' behind your confrontation to him..and he over reacts, there is another REAL issue that both of you must confront and resolve or this could lead to you to be injured if you continue to pick about things like paper towels. You must get to the REAL problem... when things cool off, sit down and write down everything that you feel isnt happening that you want to happen in your marriage... then put down everyting you do not want in it...
Ask him to do the very same thing... When you both have these things on paper, go over the list again and list them according to importance and take the 3 most important things and his three most important things and sit down and calmly discuss how to accomplish these needs.
Control your emotions, choose a low tone of voice, do not accuse or assign blame..Tell him what is REALLY your problem. Listen to him, enable him to "hear" you... remember this is the person you loved enough to promise to love forever... it takes both of you to work this out...choosing to get upset over paper towels is simply not important enough to get this serious.. Choose your fights, make the fight worth the war... know what i mean???
2006-07-20 12:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Birdkeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an abuser. You both need counseling, if you want this marriage to work. I can understand if you are broke and he is just concerned about the money. But, come on, now, you know when he has drawn the line. And he sounds like the kind of guy that would hit you.
2006-07-20 12:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by proudmatriarch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be very careful. If he likes to drink and gets angry fast. He will eventually fly off of the handle and possibly start swinging. No man has a right to hit a woman. Any man who does hit a woman is not a man.
2006-07-20 12:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by witchypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on him, have you seen him hit things before when angry? Or does he hold back and control himself?
I would say if he puts holes in walls and doors, chances are you may be the target someday. If it happens, DO NOT put up with it. Kick him out or leave. It is one of the worst forms of disrespect.
2006-07-20 12:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you couldn't put your foot in his balls because????
Ill never get why women choose to stay with asswipes like this and want to be just friends with nice guys. i think you need to seriously think about your situation. marriage is supposed to be about emotional security, comittment and sex. NO ONE men OR women belongs being controlled, abused or beaten by someone. any man that has to beat a woman is a childish pussy who needs to have his own way.
Vin
2006-07-20 12:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait around to see. Three paper towels? Come on now. That is just stupid. Leave his stupid *** before he ruins your life.
2006-07-20 12:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Good Gushy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got any information about his past relationships? Was his father abusive? Start digging around, don't wait untill you get a black eye. If our intuition is telling you something, then heed it. If he is abusive, then he has a past, find out!!!
2006-07-20 12:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by Donny W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe. it shows you that he has a temper. i had a family friend and her husband, whenever he lost his temper, he would destroy whatever room they were in, normally the living room. but she thought it was ok because he never actually hit her. then one day he beat her up. trust your instincts.
2006-07-20 12:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by moonshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋