This email nearly ended our friendship. Basically, she took everything I'd ever done wrong during a ten year friendship and threw it in my face. We're just now getting our friendship back on track. Should I just get rid of the email, or keep it?
2006-07-20 05:08:41 · 25 answers · asked by mury902 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you are trying to fix the friendship, you need to forget about it... delete it and start over. she was in a bad state of mind when she wrote that and you shouldn't hold it against her
2006-07-20 05:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the email. Try to understand that when someone is depressed, they focus on the negative. It feeds their depression. They don't mean to, but they don't know how not to. I'm sure she probably didn't mean to hurt you and she probably regrets the things she said, but remember this, you can never move forward if you're constantly holding onto the past. What's done is done, let it go.
2006-07-20 12:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by sweetyankee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting your friendship back on track, as you say, that means you're moving forward, right? That means, you're looking toward a future as friends, and wanting to keep each others' company, right? So, then, by keeping the email, you'd just be rehashing the past each time you look at it. How could you possibly move on by keeping the email?
2006-07-20 12:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get rid of the email b/c it was during a time of her life that she was not herself. If you are getting your friendship back on track, you do not need to remind yourself of the things that she said bad about you.
2006-07-20 12:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're re-building a future with your friend. The email represents a situation from the past that no longer exists--delete the email and let it go.
2006-07-20 12:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Joe_D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it still hurts when u see the email, "delete it" otherwise the most important mail to delete is the one in ur mind esp. since u r mending the friendship. b sure this person is totally cured bcos if he/she can still remember all u did wrong in 10yrs, that memory needs a clean up. all the best.
2006-07-20 12:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by lifejourney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not keep it. If you handled those things that were in and even if you didn't there is no need to keep it. Now if the note was suicidal like then I would keep and suggest that she gets some help and God forbid that she does something to herself that letter might help to give you insight. But in general I would not keep that letter it would not serve any purpose.
2006-07-20 12:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her am email back wishing her the best of luck with her suicide goals. I'm surprised you patched up your friendship.
2006-07-20 12:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you remember what you throw away yesterday, last week or last month? Do you still that bell bottom pants? I believe the answer is no and you forgot that those are yours and yet you threw them away.
Can you ask yourself why are you keeping something that is ancient when this thing is always in your brain?
2006-07-20 12:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friendship with her have anything to do with her depression and suicide thoughts? If so, you might give some serious thought to printing it off and keeping it somewhere safe.
2006-07-20 12:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Beaumeader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋