okay hears the scoop im going to my boyfriend of 2 months house 2marrow and he thinks were going to have sex but i need someone to help me find a good way to tell him i dont want to have sex yet. but i want him to know i will do other things with him.
please help no rude answers please..................................
2006-07-20 04:53:42 · 25 answers · asked by christina s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just print out the HIV question that was posted a few minutes ago and show it to him. Demand him to respect your decision.
2006-07-20 05:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! If this person is trying to get you in bed after only two months (it seems you are very young) and you do not want to do it, there will probably be no middle ground. He obviously doesn't care about your desires at all. Especially if this is your first time, go with someone that cares about what you want.
Also, make sure you do not go anywhere that you two will be alone. That is always a dangerous time and you do not want to precipitate date rape. You don't really know him very well.
Do not beat around the bush and say that you love him, but... no sex. Don't fool around a "little" and think that will suffice. Definitely do not give him a BJ as others have suggested, because that means clothes coming off and he will want more soon. Be clear and be strong; you have the power here and unfortunately you must use it. This may mean you and he break up, but it is worth it to find someone that really cares about you!
2006-07-20 04:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by DMR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what u do. Tell him u aren't ready 2 have sex yet. Be ur willing 2 do other things. And if he gets mad cause u don't want 2 have sex then u shouldn't be with him. And u need 2 find someone else if he is going 2 get mad.
2006-07-20 05:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by french mocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get to his house, and the time comes, sit down and have a serrious conversation with him, reguarding the sex issue. Don't be afraid to be a little bold, and make sure you make it clear to him the sex is not in the cards just yet. If he is truly your boyfriend, and I mean the kind the actully loves you for YOU, then he should understand. Depending how old you are, it is perfectly fine to refuse sex, but eventully you should consider it because it is a healthy thing to do, if it is protected. If you have sex with this person in the future, make sure it is PROTECTED sex, and don't go past your boundries. Hope this helps.
2006-07-20 05:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right- there are alot of other things you can do that would make him happy and satisfy him sexually! NEVER have sex until YOU are completely ready for it! Dont let him pressure you into it. If he says " if u love me u will " You say " if u love me you'll wait"!!!!!!! You can always use touching to make him feel satisfied or oral sex to help him relieve his tension. But never do anything u r not ready for. Be honest with him and let him know u arent ready. let him know its you not him. That you just are not ready to take the final step but when u r you will let him know! GOOD LUCK TO U
2006-07-20 04:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready. If he truly loves you or cares about you, he will respect your decision and wait. If he doesn't, then he isn't right for you. Do NOT have sex if you're not ready! And make sure he doesn't take advantage of you or force you in any way! That would be considered as rape. Good luck.
2006-07-20 04:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him you are not ready yet to have sex. Good girl. And whatever other things you are talking about, be careful. You still can get STDs. Whatever you do deside to do, above all else keep your self respect.
2006-07-20 05:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him before hand else he will be upset. if he is not glad, he will stop you from coming. is better this way. you will regret later if you are not ready now. be brave to face the consequences, young lady. Anyway there are nothing much to lose if you don wanna do it. You are still young n you have a life time to do it. so don't do it if you are not ready.
2006-07-20 04:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mobidus Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just tell him that you are not ready to have sex yet, and if he gets upset and all and acts like he dont want to talk to you then he was just using you. but if he loves you then he will understand that you are not ready. and remember dont let anyone force you to do anything you dont want to do.
girl power!
2006-07-20 05:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with him and tell him that you are not ready to have sex with him. If he cares about you, the he will understand. If he doesn't then you don't need him.
2006-07-20 05:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋