Are you given some sort of allowance for yourselves or can you spend money as you see fit? My husband does not give me money for things like clothes or personal items. I wore one of his t-shirts yesterday and he said not to do that because people will know he doesn't buy me clothes. I am a full time college student and mother of 2.
2006-07-20 04:50:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
you need clothes just as much as he does. Have a good budget. Whoever is better at math and budgeting, be in charge of it. Don't let him make all of the decisions just because he makes money. Be good to each other, and your kids.
2006-07-20 05:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a problem here.
This is not right. And most husbands are not like that I don't think. I am a stay at home wife and my husband would never do that to me. If I need something I buy it.
It's obvious you don't have time for a part-time job so you have to come up with ways to get some money from him. How about groceries? Do you go and buy them? If so, hold back some money each week, even a few dollars for yourself. If you buy groceries and pay with a check, write the check for a little over the amount and save it for yourself.
Sounds like he cares what others think or he wouldn't have made that comment. Is he a controlling person? Sounds that way to me.
If things don't change, you'll get tired of it one day and you can take that college degree and tell him to hit the road.
Good Luck
2006-07-20 05:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello cna, let me start off by saying that your husband is being a giant A.. ! My wife was a stay at home Mother for 9 years with our Daughter and even though she wasn't bringing in any money, everything was and still is shared evenly! We have a joint checking and savings account and if she felt she needed somethng for the house, our Daughter or herself she knew she could get it. Yes if it was expensive we did talk about it first but that is how a marriage is supposed to be.
I congratulate you on being a full time student as well as a Mother of 2. I think that parents who are stay at homes should be given some sort of pay by our governement! I know that will never happen here as it does in some Scandinavian countries.
Talk to your husband, you don't deserve to live like that and neither do your children.
Good luck
2006-07-20 05:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say controling? I mean I stay at home and take care of my 2 kids also but I take care of the bills to so that means I know what I can or can't spend. So no my husband doesn't give me an allowance I am the one who keeps up with the money. Sorry but even if he thought I would except just what he thinks I should spend but that would cause on heck of a fight. If my husband wants me to care for the kids and have a life he has to allow me to spend OUR money as WE see fit. This is not a competition its a marriage and WE have to work TOGETHER. Good luck!!
2006-07-20 04:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Justbeingme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
I am now back at work for the same reason. My husband would buy me clothes with the credit card or whatever but the not having just cash in pocket bothered me. So I tend bar two nights a week and keep the tip money for me and the kids to have some play money during the week. It works well for us and my hubby enjoys the fact that I don't bug him for money. I hope this helps.
2006-07-20 04:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hollli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. You truly are amazing to be a mom of two and going to college full time... I have two children and I stay home with them and don't work outside of the home though I strangely do look forward to it some day... They are my main focus and your hubby should be so very proud of all you do.. You should have times when you can go out and buy what ever you need. I know I am bad for not doing it for a long time and then when I do I tend to go over board and though my hubby should get upset, he never does.. I on the other hand have had to learn that I have to control what I spend because he wont set a limit.... Your hubby needs a really good smack of reality as to what he has and how he is neglecting you..... Set him down and lay it out..... And be proud of all you do..... ~ BEST wishes to you, sister mommy...~
2006-07-20 07:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Lavender ~ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home (mostly), just work 2 days a week. I spend my husband's money as I see fit. I take care of all the bills. he spends whatever money he wants, too.
I feel it is my responsibility to make sure we have money to pay bills. If we are short one month, I go without then. No allowance, but I don't spend money we don't have. Also, I consider it "our" money.
2006-07-20 04:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom and my husband works almost seven days a week. No, I cannot spend money how I see fit because I am a bit of a spend thrift. But, me and him have worked it all out. If I need money I just tell him what for and he gives it to me. He gives me spending money sometimes just for myself for clothes and whatever and I go shopping. Sometimes he takes me shopping. It works out good.
2006-07-20 05:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by proudmatriarch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the finances of the month. We have a strong budget, I have a set amount of money to spend throughout the week, not a nickle more. Its the choice I made by having children , and giving up my career, to raise them.. We are moms , sometimes you just need to suck it up and deal with. Thats life, if you need new clothes budget for them, take some of the grocery money every week and squirel it way in a hiding place
Good luck
2006-07-20 04:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by noahsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bugetting and money is hard in a marriage, but not impossible. Because it is important to have a little spending money, my wife and I give each other an allowance that we can each do what we see fit. Even though only one of us has income, this system seems to work well because we each have money to spend and we don't have to worry about not having enough left to pay the bills.
2006-07-20 04:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lord_of_Armenia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 11:04:05 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋