Yesterday my bestfriends mom called me and told me he was in the hospital. He is having complications from AIDS. I never knew he was infected. He's 17 and has been very sexually active with girls for the last couple of years. I don't know what to do. His Mom made me swear to secrecy, but I know of at least 6 girls he had unprotected sex with before school was out for the summer. And several girls have given him BJ's. He is really popular at school. I worry about the people he had sex with and oral. They all do it a lot. I'm affraid mt whole school is going to die. I know I'm safe because I've never had sex. Should I tell people even though his mom said not to? She doesn't know he has had sex all the time and he made me swear not to tell either.
2006-07-20 04:44:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
From what his Mom told me, he never knew he had HIV. He has never been tested. He went to the hospital because he had a sore on his back that wouldn't heal and after some tests determined he had full blown AIDS. At this point they have no idea how long he was HIV +. Anyway, thanks for the help. I just told my Mom, and she's on the phone with the superintendent of schools. We live in Indiana.
2006-07-20 05:12:35 · update #1
You need to tell these girls. They probably have HIV (all the girls he's slept with or had oral sex with). Does your friend have HIV or AIDs? Because if he had AIDs, he doesn't have much longer to live. If he has HIV, he still has time. And these girls need a chance to live. The longer they have HIV without knowing, the closer they are to getting AIDs and facing death. Recommend to the girls to get the HIV vaccine so they can have HIV for a longer time. We all know its incurable but it can be slowed down. It WILL spread around. And ask these girls who they have come in contact with (sexually) as well. You don't need the whole school having a HIV/AIDs epidemic.
2006-07-20 04:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL!!!! this would be simple for me. I mean you have to think about all the lives his careless actions are putting at risk, besides the girls he had unprotected sex with and the ones who have given him BJs. I mean what about the girls families being exposed to the virus and possibly passing it on to them who also have no clue that the person they slept with could have given them AIDS. What I am trying to say is this could urn into something tragic because he wants to keep his secret. What he is doing is MURDER!!!! HE can actually go to jail for what he is doing because he is spreading a deadly disease (with knowledge that he has it) and not telling anyone. Shoot! In this case I'd would give him an opportunity to tell the people and also inform him that he is committing a crime and the consquences of committing this crime. If not...then I would be forced to inform the suthorities or at least the school nurse. This is tragic...so sad. I hope your irresponsible and heartless friend and mother realize what they are doing. You can't blame all of it on them because it takes two to tango. I know they are trying to "Protect" him and his rep. But what about other people's health and lifestyles is taking away while he is in the midst of all his selfishness?
2006-07-20 11:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Khalila B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be the one taking the responsibility in telling these girls! This is their life he is playing with! Did u know if he gets out of the hospital and sleeps with a girl knowing he has aids and doesnt tell her- he can go to jail for attempted murder???? Its that way in alot of states now!!!! BUT if he isnt going to tell them and his mother isnt- I totally think you should! They have all rights to know and to get tested for the virus so they dont spread it any further!!! If he wont be the man you be the man and help these girls before they apread it any farther! Your being an awesome friend!!!!
2006-07-20 11:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God! You totally have to tell someone. If and when these people find out that they have AIDS and find out who they got it from and that he was keeping it a secret, he can go to jail! And if he rats you out, you're going down with him! Giving someone AIDS and knowing about, even if it was after the fact, is practically considered killing someone, just very slowly. You need to tell somebody or convice your friend to tell somebody. This is a very serious matter & i'm sure you don't want to be a part of a bunch of lies and deciet that could ultimately kill someone. How will you live with yourself?
2006-07-20 11:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by iluvzmibebe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES...YES...YES you must tell the people you know he has slept with. (Also anyone you know who has given him oral sex)Teens are so sexually active these days, that this one person could literally be responsible for 100's of cases of HIV. Please tell your parents, and have them help you get the word out to be tested. This is VERY SERIOUS. Is there anyway you could tell me what state you live in? I would be happy to make an anonymous report to the department of health for you.
2006-07-20 11:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all sorry to hear about your friend. I think you shoud tell his mother, and she should talk to the parents, teacher, principal, or whoever to make sure they get tested. She could talk the school into getting together with the local health department to arrange for a free AIDS screening test for the school. Good luck!
2006-07-20 12:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have a responsibility. You should talk to your parents, his mom, and together go to the school or better than that (Since you don't want to come across as the one who squeeled.) Direct this information to the local CDC. (Center for Disease Control.) Silence will cause this foolishness to spread quicker and more people would be infected.
2006-07-20 11:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't have sex with the girls/guys he did
2. Don't have unprotected sex with anyone
3. It's going to get out anyway.
4. If you want to be really selfish, you could also not tell the girls u know who are infected (afterall what can you get out of them) but in your shoes, i would broadcast.
2006-07-20 11:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The centers for diease control tell everone that person has slept with it might be a good idea to contact them. they already know about him so your not breaking your promise, and if they can't help you need to tell the girls, because your friend intentionally put them at risk what if there family get infected because they didn't know. you would want to be told would't you.
2006-07-20 11:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Vanissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and try and comfort him... and also incourage him to talk to the girls he slept with to get tested. ALL of them, because their lives could be at risk and he is responsible really. Hope I helped.
2006-07-20 12:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋