My husband takes one week off to go fishing with the guys in Sept. One to two days per ice fishing derby. One week for hunting. And one week he is suppose to spend with his family. We are going on holidays for 5 days now he want to ride his bike there and me take the van with the kids which is fine but I have to come back coz I have to work and he doesn't but he want to stay and me bring the kids back and than I have to pay for a sitter. I don't go anywhere now do you guys find that unfair or not is he being selfish? Honest oppions Please.
2006-07-20 04:40:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoa, I am a male married to my wife and we have 2 kids and My wife and I always when ever we have time vacation we all go together and that what family all about.
Let me tell you this, I remember my wife taking my kids to Sacramento for my daughter birthday. I want to do my own time to gold pan. it about 4 hrs drive from bakersfield to sac. Before she left she said " are you sure want to go you never missed her first birthday and now 2nd birthday? I said when you get back we have Birthday party again. They left and I remember going gold pan. Some how I was not happy i like it eat me alive kept telling me need to go to her birthday. it was on sunday. so they left friday and I was there sat morning and then I left stright to sacramento Sat. Night and I stayed my friend house. then sunday after noon my friend and I went to where she told me will be for her birthday. I called and said hi honey i just want to tell her happy birthday and my daughter told me daddy when you coming.. i told I am sorry honey. but really talking same time i walk in i saw her so sad face and I told her your daddy here she said "where daddy where!?" I told her look up an dshe saw me and said daddy daddy and everyone was shocked to see me. my wife said why you here I though you want to do your time?
I told her that I can't image that selfish of me and not thinking about my daughter and my family. My wife's grandma said I knew you couldn't missed her birthday. Which is True. Ever since I always make sure i have time with my family on vacation. Now my wife and kids going to Sac tmw. and I have to work. Bummer that I will not be too happy with out them.
Your husband really think of himself and Not understand that that is a Father role to show the kids that you really love them and being there. If you don't then it so sad what he doing.
My honest opinon!!!!???? It Disrespect this family being unfair and totally selfish himself. I hope you do tell him how you feel and tell him stright up. if he gets mad and said I want to have my time and tell him well I wish I have my time but we have job to take care our kids and go places as a family...
I get up 4 am every morning why my kids still sleep and I do my own time. When I am home I always play with my kids until bed time. always it was fun. I think he getting bored.
2006-07-20 05:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is definitely unfair.
It sounds as though his job allows him much more time off than yours does.
So...while I understand your point of view, I also understand his.
The thing is...marraige is about compromise.
2 weeks to go fishing and hunting with his friends seems like a reasonable request to me, but he needs to work with you. If he is to get those 2 weeks vacation - he should take the kids on those trips for some of the time. By doing that, you also get a vacation from being mom, and he can spend time bonding with the kids. Everyone wins. Maybe you could take some time off when he has the kids fishing, and then you could get some alone time as well.
You need to sit down and lay things out and create a compromise for everyone to be happy.
PS - It sounds like you are a doormat, and want to whine and vent, but never really take the initiative on making time for you. You need as much time for yourself as he does, so keep that in mind when talking with him.
2006-07-20 04:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seemed like you need to do some investigating because something is not right..... I really don't know any man that will spend more time with his " friends" than his Family... Check some things out.. Start asking questions.... You should have left those kids with him, and used the line that you keep the kids since you are off. spend some time with them. If you have a son by him next time he decides he wants to go fishing make him take his son, and see his reaction.... if he flips he is really not going fishing alone... listen to your heart and understand what he is telling you... men are stupid and always tell on themselves...
2006-07-20 04:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Kayla, yes it's unfair and he is being incredibly selfish!
If you have tried talking to him and not had any success, schedule a weekend away with the girls one time and leave him there wth the children! Even if your girlfriends can't go just go away for a day and see if he changes his mind about a few things when you get back.
2006-07-20 05:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to spend more time with you and the kids. he can always go fishing and hunting with the kids when they get older
2006-07-20 05:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by wbroyhobbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not being fair. How has he learned that he doesn't need to be fair? It may be very difficult to bring fairness back if there ever was fairness in the marriage to begin with. There is serious (make that SERIOUS) negotiating to be done and you may need a counselor to help with it.
2006-07-20 05:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very self centered man! He has not learned to share his time with his loved ones!!
2006-07-20 04:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by hrry_tws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants or needs some me time find out why
This could be a beginning to some marital problems that have not surfaced yet
2006-07-20 05:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick the hunting rifle up his butt and demand some changes.
2006-07-20 05:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋