I am insecure with myself and it causes me to be jealous of my boyfriend. I don't like when he checks out other girls in front of me, I don't like that he thinks he can tell me when he is attracted to a girl (even my friends). He says I should be the one person he can tell anything to, but I don't want to hear that kind of stuff. And even though he says he should be able to tell me anything, I still feel like I don't know a lot about his daily life. Sometimes I find things out from our mutual friends. I feel like he should come to me first. Lots of questions in this one, I guess. How can I be more secure in our relationship. He is very good to me, but we still tend to fight a lot because of problems I have with him.
2006-07-20 04:32:20 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also he is on his computer all the time. I understand he can go on it but I feel like it's his escape from me. When we get home from work, he goes straight on it for a long time and I'm just sitting around waiting for him. I want him to be interested in hanging out with me instead of playing backgammon and having conversations with someone he just met in the game room
2006-07-20 05:16:00 · update #1
I feel it is extremely inappropiate for a guy to openly check out other girls in front of his girlfriend. Admiring is fine, finding someone "hot" or whatever is fine (because if he cannot appreciate beauty in another woman, how can he appreciate it in you?), but what you are talking about goes over the line. In its own way, this borders on emotional abuse.
You need to sit down with your guy and tell him openly and honestly that you have some insecurities and that when he says and does these things it makes you feel even more insecure. Be ready to listen to his point of view, but he doesn't get to just blow you off. Yes, you two should be able to tell each other just about anything, but you shouldn't be sharing trivial things that hurt one another.
2006-07-20 04:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as harsh as this may seem, insecurity will ruin a relationship- doesnt matter whether it be a guy or a girl. you need to be confident in yourself- you are as pretty as you think you are! look he is with you for a reason, right? look in the mirror and find atleast 3 things that you ARE happy with and go with it! confidence is beautiful!
2006-07-20 11:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by blahblahblah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO girl wants for there bf to tell them he likes someone else and how they feel and tell him that's disrespectful
2006-07-20 11:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋