I have fallen in love with my boss but I am married too and can never ever tell him. Should I stay or quit?
2006-07-20 04:26:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
QUIT!!!! You are asking for BIG trouble.
2006-07-20 04:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible...falling in love with someone is not really you can do much about or control. What you can control, though, is what you do about it. The situation is complicated -- 1) the guy is married, 2) he's your boss, and 3)you're married too. So don't tell him or show him that you love him, and don't have an affair! It'll ruin your life. Maybe he's at fault too -- flirting with you. In any case, if you need the job you should stay with it, ride out the storm and sooner or later hopefully those feelings will pass.
2006-07-20 04:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay, realize that it's probably not love, love your husband, and don't say a word to your boss. You've probably just fallen in love with the ideal of what he is, and not who he is, but you're married so you should be working out your issues with your husband and not having feelings for another man.
2006-07-20 04:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit because after it is gonna make difficult the relationship between boss and employee. You won't be able of making your obligations because you won't focus and in your private life is gonna damage your emotions adn marriage over an impossible love. Plus usually office loves are only crushes or extreme emotions because you work with him shoulder to shoulder. You don't know him outside office and there is an office personality and a private personality in his daily life with fam and friends. You are in love with the person who is in the office but you don't know the real person. You don't know if his feet stink or other things.-
You better quit because this idealization of your boss will damage your relationship with someone you actually know: YOUR HUSBAND.
2006-07-20 04:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget about these feelings. It can only hurt you in the end. Quitting your job is not going to change your feelings either. I believe that it is not love, it sounds like lust. What has your boss done to make you fall in love with him. Think about your feelings and that of your husbands before you mess up your marriage.
2006-07-20 04:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. It would probably be better to quit, but I'm sure that would be very difficult. But it will also be difficult to get over your love for your boss if you see him every day. With two marriages involved you're on very delicate ground. I'd keep that in mind. TWO MARRIAGES gosh darnit! lol Good luck, girl.
2006-07-20 04:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Christine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known you love your boss? 'cuz my guess is that it is just a lust issue, not necessarily a love issue....Your call! if you truley are in love with your boss, and you don't want a divorce, move on to another company....although, if you let yourself fall in love with your boss, you'll probably do it somewhere else...If it's just lust, give it 6 mos...you'll see how crazy you really are! Good Luck ok?
2006-07-20 04:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a job your really enjoy you should stay. But it wouldn't hurt for you to get a few weeks of therapy for yourself. You may have just hit a "speed-bump" in your life and need a bit of direction. Keep your feelings and thoughts about this to yourself and focus on you and your marriage.
2006-07-20 04:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could happen and it's not a sin , But as you are married i advice you not to go far , I'm afraid it will affect your life , Take care
2006-07-20 04:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Omer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you aren't going to tell I would quit ... i mean if its at all possible for you to change jobs.. I think I would.....it could only end badly if you stayed.
2006-07-20 04:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not acting on your feelings I guess it's ok. When it starts to interfere with your work or you catch yourself flirting then I think it's safe to say it's time to move on.
2006-07-20 04:29:54 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋