Ex and I broke it off last week and agreed to be friends(mutual). I really do enjoy him as my friend, but he has two daugthters and they irritated me....I feel bad that I did not care for his children because I have a son. I'm glad we ended the relationship and are going back to seeing each other every few months (we will be living in two separate states again) because now the children are taken out of the situation. When he comes to visit me I will not have my son around(he will be at his fathers house). So my question is was it wrong to end the relationship because I didn't care for his daugthers. I never told him I didn't care for his daughters either. We had agreed to end it because he wanted to be back in the same state as his daugters.
2006-07-20 04:26:43 · 3 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't say how old his daughters were or if they lived with him but regardless, even if they are a little older and don't live with him, he obviously wants to be or is very involved with them since you say he wanted to be back in the same state as them. In a relationship, children from previous relationships are a package deal that come with their parent. If, for whatever reason, you did not or could not bond or forge a loving relationship with his children, then I think you did do the right thing in ending the relationship. No need to tell him you didn't like his daughters. What would be the purpose. That would just be hurtful. If he's ok with the current status of your relationship (or lack thereof) and you are as well, then I don't see a problem. I think you made the wise choice in ending it before the chldren became a real issue between you and he or before the children were affected by any of it (that is, assuming you treated them nicely when you were in contact with them). You can't force or change your feelings. However, in time your perspective may change, or his, or his daughters may change or become less of a factor in what yours and his lives would be. Who knows, the future is an unwritten book. I would examine my feelings towards the daughters though if you do intend to develop a relationship with this man in the future. If it's just a sex thing once in a while when he drops into town then that's another thing all together and completely your choice. Is the problem really the daughters and their behaviour? Is it the way your ex deals with them that makes you so upset? Is it anything to do with the attention given to them vs your son? If you do intend a future at some point with this man, please, please, for everyones sake, figure out what your issue is with the daughters. If not, don't second guess your choice, it was the only thing you could do to spare everyone a lot of heartache, hurt feelings and grief. Good Luck.
2006-07-20 04:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 17⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer depends on who you ask, some people might say it's kinda not a good reason but, the way I see it is if his kids bothered u to the point you wasn't happy then you did the right thing cause you made the choice to end it because of that so I mean just move on and don't think about if it right or wrong cause at this point it doesn't even matter anymore just be his friend and move on to the next fish.But yeah I don't think its wrong you wasn't happy no matter what the reason why is.
2006-07-20 11:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you him to feel that way about your son yes that was rude and SELFISH of you not to care about his kids if you felt that way you should have never got with him and think how would you feel if that was your son and he felt that way about him
2006-07-20 11:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋