Divorcing, and so many people have said the best thing to do is have a purely physical, no emotion sex fling. I have never done anything like that, I get too attached and think I would only end up feeling bad about myself, has anyone ever benefited from a sex fling?
2006-07-20 04:19:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I very much did. But you have to be REAL careful. If you cannot seperate love and sex, do not do it. I was married very young and for a long time. When I got divorced, I needed to sow my wild oats a little. I was able to have several "sex flings" with guys that i was not or would ever date. They were much younger and we considered each other friends. We respected each other and it worked. After a while I worked out my issues, and was ready for a real relationship. I have now met the man of my dreams and couldn't be happier. Flings are tough or impossible for most people, you have to know that you and the person you are flinging with understand the situation and are able to be freinds and NO drama.
2006-07-20 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cheri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, divorce is not an easy thing. I am divorced and I know how hard it is. I'm just like you, I get too attched to people. I have never done a sex fling and do not intend on doing it. I mean, when you have strong emotions, like you seem to have, it's not even even worth trying to have a fling because you will add feeling to it. For you (and for me also), sex rhymes with feelings and emotions. if you dont hin you can do, and if you dont want to d it, dont. Don t let anyone tell you to.
Good luck!
2006-07-20 11:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by diamant152001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough and depending on what kind of person you are that will depend if you can go through with it or not. Everybody get attachted one way or the other but you are looking to get your mind off your ex it can work. On the other hand if you get into the mood to replace your ex then stay away from it. Dating may be to soon and really if you take a good look at it right now it is not the best thing for you if you are in an emotional state of mind. It worked for me but I have seen people not ready and it back fires then start off there single life again feeling bitter and that is not a good way begin anything.
2006-07-20 11:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by 456tbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?!! Who are these people you've been talking to? Do you know that there is scientific evidence of a chemical bond that occurs when we have sex? (It happens in both men and women but is much stronger in women and is similiar to the chemical bond in nursing your child.) And since no birth control is 100%, you need to always consider what would happen if you got pregnant. I'm sorry, but that suggestion is just foolish and gross! You need to find some other people to listen to.
2006-07-20 12:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have thought about it. i am in the middle of a seperation right now and my urge is to do so, but i would be miserable with guilt if by some miracle my wife and i got back together, which is what im hoping for. it would be nice to get a little though
2006-07-20 11:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by vader1779 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never do it. What you need to do is find something that you like to do and concrete on that to take your mind off of your divorce. In time you will be ready to have another relationship.
2006-07-20 11:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's the last thing you need right now. Focus on your faith, read some good books, start writing a journal, go out with girlfriends, go see your family. Do fun things - but don't do that thing.
2006-07-20 11:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever your HEAD and heart dictate, whenever you so choose. But like you said, you need to be happy with that person you see in the mirror every day! And I believe you will be, since you KNOW yourself. :)
2006-07-20 11:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the worse advice I have ever heard. Don't do that. Fix you and then worry about another relationship later.
2006-07-20 11:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful if you try it. You sound like you would become attached as most people would.
2006-07-20 11:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋