Help.. i'm 34 week preganate,,, and i'm 3cm diliated 80%affaced and on bedrest....read below?

Question

is it normal for me to be cring all the time? my midwife has me on two diffrent meds to make sure hisa lungs are devolped but i feel completly useless, i'm the one everyone depend on now i have to depend on everyone elsei have a two year old i can't even pick up andf hold my house is a mess, everytime i stand up to do something i'm getting screamed at by one person or another to lay down is all this normal? my midwife said if i go in to labor she's not going to stop it will my baby be ok if he comes this early?

Answer 1

I feel your pain! I was on bed rest from about 32 weeks and I delivered at 38. I had pre-eclampsia. I was the one that did all the house work and my house was a mess too. It is such a hard time being on bed rest at the end because you go into the "nesting" faze and all you want to do is clean. You cry all the time because you are worried about the baby's health and the fact that your house is falling apart. Try not to stress about it because the more stress you have the more danger you put your baby in. The percentage for survival is greater if you can make it another week or two (ideally 36 weeks). I have a 4 year old so I know how you feel on that. You feel like you are doing nothing and feel bad that you can't interact with them. Try playing some board games with him/her or watch cartoons with them. You want to be as involved as possible with him/her right now because when the baby gets there you will be spending most of your time taking care of it. Good luck! Things will get better.

Answer 2

I can feel your sadness and so can your baby so relax, It sounds to me that you are surrounded by people who love and care about you. Fine your house is a mess and its OK!! you and your baby come first. i know how sad you must feel not being able to pick up your 2 year old but you can do other things with her maybe she can jump on bed w/you and color. Kids that age love it when you give them a piece of paper and crayons, you can also watch cartoons w/her/or him. You guys can even snack on the bed. Now lets hope you do not go into labor yet anywhere after 36 weeks is OK. so lets just wait a little more, Your midwife is taking great care of the baby and you i am sure that all the meds she has been giving you for his lungs will work wonders for him. Wish you the best. God bless you , your kids and those around you:)

Answer 3

Your hormones are at a very high level right now, so, yes, it's normal for you to cry. If you are on bedrest, stay there, and for a change, let someone else do the work. You are not letting anyone down. If you do get up and do something, and your labor starts, you are letting your new baby down. Do yourself and the baby a favor, and stay down, it's best for the little one and you need the rest. Trust me. And listen to your midwife. Good luck and have a great baby. Go lie down as soon as you read this. Get away from the computer.

Answer 4

Please relax and don't worry so much about your house and everything else. I had my first child at 35 weeks, 4 days after 10 weeks of bedrest! I also had the meds to help develop his lungs and my OB/GYN decided not to stop labor. He was a totally healthy but small 4 pound 10 oz. baby who went home the day after birth and had absolutely no complications. He nursed well and grew like crazy and by 6 weeks nobody guessed he was premature. So I know it's hard and I cried for weeks upon being sent to bed but it will all be well and you are far enough along that everything should go wonderfully. My second child was born at 37 weeks although I had bloody show and was 3-4 cm. dilated at 33 weeks! I was not put on bedrest but did slow things down a bit. He was 7 pounds! Good luck and try really hard to relax and not be unhappy.

Answer 5

It is very difficult to be on bed-rest. I guess your sense of frustration and helplessness are coming out in your tears. I'd say that is a normal outlet.

The most important thing you can do now is to stay in bed and follow your care provider's instructions. If you don't you could end up in the hospital on bed-rest, without the family or your other child around. It could be worse. My doctor told me long ago that a day in the uterus is like 3 days out, so keep that baby there as long as you possibly can! A baby boy's lungs tend to mature a little more slowly than a girl's so if you are sure it's a boy, you realize how much more important the time in utero is for him. Prioritize this...it is the most important thing you have to do right now. Try to change your mindset as to bed-rest being a positive, proactive thing to do.

Thirty-four week old babies would likely have a few problems. They may need a bit of oxygen assistance, may be unable to tolerate eating normally (requiring intravenous or tube feedings), or require antibiotics. There are always extremes though, both good and bad. The BEST thing is to prolong the birth for as near to term as is possible, but you have to know this already.

Be strong and secure in knowing you are the best incubator possible for your little one. Good luck!

Answer 6

You need not worry about things you can't change. The baby needs you to rest and rest you shall. The house will be fine your 2 year old will be fine. You need to be thankful for the help everyone is trying to give to you and your baby. If rest and a messy home will help baby get here safely. Then that's what it will take. A healthy baby is the goal here. your baby will be fine trust in your dr. It is normal to feel helpless in this situation with all of the circumstances involved. i would feel helpless and desperate too just a while longer and everything will be ok. Your family is just worried about you and your baby i think you are just sick and tired of being helpless. Think of it as a mini vacation for the mom to be! God Bless and Good luck

Answer 7

i didn't know a midwife could perscribe medication? anyhow... it's never GREAT for a baby to be early, that's why you are on bedrest. the longer the baby stays in, the better it is for the baby. if you are 3cm/80% you're going to have that baby, most likely, within the next 2 days. but, every minute counts. just relax and enjoy everyone waiting on you. if you don't have an adult there to help you out, call one now.

Answer 8

It is normal especially if you are used to doing everything. Try and relax and not let all the choas get to you. your baby should be fine if he/she is born this early I had a friend that delivered at your stage in December and her baby was a-okay and if they are giving you meds to speed up his lung growth then it sounds like they are doing thier part too. I am sure you feel usless and that is contributing to your depression. Just try and enjoy this little bit of time off from your daily duties and maybe figure out something you can do while laying down. But trust me you are normal and just a little longer and your beatiful baby will be here and it will all be worth it.

Answer 9

yes it's normal for you to cry and it's normal for you to be fustrated. things aren't turning out how you planned. that's ok. don't worry about your house being a mess and have someone put a stool next to your bed so the 2 year old can climb up in bed with you. give her a basket to carry around so she can bring her books and toys to you. that way you can play together. if the baby comes now it'll have a fight on it's hands but everyday it stays in there it's odds get better. try to relax and rest and your baby will be fine. allow people to take care of you. you'll be on your feet taking care of everyone again before you know it.

Good Luck

Answer 10

I mean yes. A lot of babies come early and they are fine but I do not recommend it. And yes it is normal for family and stuff to fuss over you being in bed, it's part of being pregnant. They are just worried for you and for your unborn baby. Just take it easy and remember that you can always clean the house when you have given birth and have had 3 months rest...