2006-07-20 04:01:41 · 20 answers · asked by sassyd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before or after a breakup, it's important to love yourself. Unless you realize that you are a special and worthwhile individual, you'll have a hard time in relationships.
If someone breaks up with you, it makes you feel like you're not worth a damn. But you can't fall prey to that emotion. If you start to believe that, other people will pick up on it and it becomes a vicious circle.
You have to realize that sometimes relationships just don't work. It happens to everyone, whether a high school student or a Movie Star. Half of the time, you leave a relationship unsure of what the reason was.
So, stay strong, love yourself, and don't let anyone change your mind.
2006-07-20 04:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Monkeypup 2 · 15⤊ 3⤋
Are you feeling broken hearted? If so just be gentle with yourself. By loving yourself you are seeking what is best for you. Maybe you need to spend more time with friends or cultivate a hobby or something that is fun for you to do, depending upon your age and where your happiness lies. Try not to dwell on it with your thoughts, that only inflicts more pain on your heart and prolongs the agony. There will be many loves in your life...sometimes the heart has to grieve the passing of some of them. Learning to let go is part of growing up. Mostly be kind to yourself because you are your closest friend, and you have the most influence over how you feel. Think peaceful and kind thoughts. It will help.
2006-07-20 04:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by novalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back to basics.
Spend time doing things you enjoy doing.
Have time to yourself everyday and always tell yourself you have a great life.
If you come across as a positive outgoing person,you will surround yourself with people with the same likes.
If you come across as a victim and depressed,you will attract this type of person,which is no good for you right now.
Always remember you have your life and your health and your young enough to find love again.
Have some YOU time and remember what its like to be you,enjoy yourself and have fun.
Life should be fun.
Good luck
2006-07-20 04:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time like everyone says. Recently divorced ,8 months and going strong. You have to heal yourself. You will get tired of being angry,hateful,and every other feeling that goes w/breakup or loss. Take it slow thats the only way to go to get back on that path to finding you. Ya know?
2006-07-20 04:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by J.M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start by realizing that your not a bad person. That maybe the two of you were not meant to be. Although you might feel bad its not the end of the world and i know it sounds cliche but there are other fish in the sea. But your happiness should not be based on another person it should be based on you. Live today like there is no tommorrow. Have no regrets and do something spontanous and trust me youll be suprised at how happy you can be. ive been there so i know that its not easy.
2006-07-20 04:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will admit it's hard. After my ex and I broke up I felt that I wasn't good enough for him anymore, that I wasn't this or that. He left me for someone else so that gets you thinking about things like what does she have or do that I don't. I think I shut down for almost two and a half weeks after the breakup. I cried, stayed in my room, it was hard to eat. I hated myself. But with time it got easier. I turned to my family and friends for support. They took me out shopping, to the movies, to dinner. Whatever they thought of to try to make me think about the moment instead of the past, what happened with my ex. In time I realized that it wasn't anything that I did or didn't do. It wasn't me! It was him who just changed his mind. Give it time, you will feel good about yourself again.
2006-07-20 04:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to take care of yourself. You will heal. I promise. Take a day off from your life too. You probably need a little time to yourself. Good luck. And remember that happiness comes from within.
2006-07-20 04:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ever stop ?? You should always love and RESPECT yourself, ALWAYS (Your worth it!!)If you love yourself others will only find it easer to love you, and you'll find it easer to love others (PROMISE) it works! In a break up no one person is ever always the blame, never.After 45 years of marrage I can say to LOVE someone..Keep someone..and be happy with them takes alot of work on both sides, not just yours or theres but BOTH...LOL your friend in Tennessee...ROB..Remember your worth it..
2006-07-20 04:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is not to be upset and laugh out loud. when u laugh over it then you can start to do things you cant do during a relationship. hee... like dolling up yrself up to flirt wif more cute guys, do things tat u love like movies, parties. As long as you are truely happy and smile u have love yourself.take care.
2006-07-20 04:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be affraid to do things that make you feel good ! even though you may not want to cus your obviosly hurting !
This person has obviously knocked your self confidence, so therefore it is hard to get it back again once you've lost it!
aim for something you have always wanted to acheive that you think would make you feel good about yourself (example ) if needed .... loose weight, date, shop, change your look. goodluck to you !!!! x
2006-07-20 04:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋