Got out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago and im over him cause he was a beater but im lost at getting my life back in order....Feels like im lost...How can I be happy again? Stupid question I know but anything at this point will help
2006-07-20 03:52:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try writing out the lessons you've learned from the past relationship and keep that handy so you can remind yourself when you feel lost.
Then try writing out the qualities you want/need in a new relationship, prioritizing the essentials from the superficial. Keep that around as a checklist when you meet new people.
When you're ready, head out and seek your special someone. No doubt he is as eager to find you as you are to find him. Give yourselves the chance to find one another.
Hope that helps.
2006-07-20 04:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by bobkgin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to figure out who you are without him. You can't be with another person until you figure this out. It can be difficult after 4 years, but you have changed and you need to figure out to what. You have grown and learned and certainly matured. So, my advise may be vague, but you just have to find yourself all over again. Surround yourself with positive people and friends and do what makes you happy. Let him go completely and all the anger and/or guilt that he left behind.
2006-07-20 03:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by mine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time to heal.Your mind must heal first-you know who you are-you know that you are strong. When you feel lost sit down and think of all the things that you will never have to endure again.Then get up and leave your memory there. Go somewhere that makes you happy---buy a purse.(you can return it later-enjoy it now)If you have children- pick them up and hug them close-they will never have to see you abused again... More POWER to you. God Bless and keep you......
2006-07-20 04:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a stupid question. The abuser stole something else besides 4 yrs, he stole your individuality, get back by doing only what U want to do and not someone Else's game.
2006-07-20 04:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surround yourself with family and friends. avoid discussing the relationship except with someone who listens without criticizing.
i like to surround myself with positive people, people who love to laugh and have a good outlook on life it makes me feel better and builds up my self worth.
its not an easy road but the scenery along the way can be beautiful.
Good luck
hugs are free they don't cost a thing, and they make things a whole lot brighter.
big hug for you today
2006-07-20 04:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for getting out of a abusive relationship. You need to go and talk to someone. Your self esteem needs alot of work and talking will help you out alot. You will be happy again it take times.
2006-07-20 04:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up climb back on the horse. the world is still spinning. come on out smell the roses again
2006-07-20 04:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy your life stop thinking about your pass and him go out have fun and restart your life with someone else
2006-07-20 03:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best medicine for these things.
That, and chocolate. =D
2006-07-20 03:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by thetoaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋