we have been together for 3 1/2 yrs then all the sudden he wants to get married so we did..now i found out he has cheated 7 or more times.I love him and so does my small children I am soo lost as of what to do.He moved us here from another state and i have no job as of yet. I have no clue what to do help..
2006-07-20 03:37:16 · 8 answers · asked by SilkyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok now I will answer some of the questions i;ve read here..He is 45 i;m 43, we have a very exciting sex life together,have heard he has cheated on every woman he has been with..But he says since we got married in May 2006 he has fallin in love with me and he stopped cheating..ok i;m really trying to buy this one..NOT..i found womens phone #;s inside his check book..now what ? my kids will be heartbroken thats all i;m worried about, I can take care of me..and yes I am getting checked at the doctors for every known STD out there..but thanks to all you who have responded..
2006-07-20 10:20:30 · update #1
As long as you have children together you will need to get along with this man, whether married or divorced. Maybe you didn't ask for the conflict in your marriage but here it is and it is time to do something about it.
And the first thing to do is get educated about relationships. You are probably like me and never thought about getting an education on the subject. I use to think it just came naturally. Not!
Cheating does not have to be the end of your marriage. Getting through it, when possible, can actually make it better. And it certainly does not have to be the end of a working relationship with the father of your children. But there is time to decide all of that after you get educated.
I recommend that both you and your husband check out the resources below ASAP, before you waste all of your time and love fighting with your husband.
WK
2006-07-20 04:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by olin1963 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you truly love him then you will forgive, I don't say you'll eaily forget but try to communicate more and see what was the real reason why he cheated, was boredom? low sex drive on your part? or just him being a dick? Anyways talk to him see if this relationship is worth saving if its not you know what to do about it. But all love realtionships have a great deal of compromise and forgiveness, remember that. At least he is trying to be honest now, maybe he wants to change his ways... Give him the benefit of the doubt!
2006-07-20 10:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl seven times??? hey i know you love him and your kids... but seven times is like a lot now the questions is with the same person or different people... im concern about your health and you should be too.. just because you love him doesnt mean you have to die for him remember there is yet no cure for aids. get your kids and leave him at least until he understand to be faithfull.get a job and a place or go back home honey.
2006-07-20 10:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is within you or you wouldn't ask the question. Leave his lying cheating ***, you will never trust him and it will get worse. Have self respect, self worth and get help from a women's shelter, this is emotional abuse at it's very worst.
2006-07-20 10:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get you an you an your kids out of it, he will keep doing it, i have one the same way luckly my kids are grown, an if i had one place to go i would , an he is still doing it, please get to your family are a friend dont put those kids threw it are yourself, it will drive u nuts an if you stay , you will never trust him , it will get good for awhile but than right back at it, run now, good luck .
2006-07-20 10:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay with him then do. If you find out that he continues to cheat, then you can have an affair too.
2006-07-20 13:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you either forgive him and work it out, or you leave him and go on about your business
2006-07-20 10:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by MikesLilMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** out you'll get by
2006-07-20 10:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋