Iam a divorcee & i met him when he had spoken abt divorce to his wife & he also has a kid from that marriage, he planned divorce not bcos of our love .Now i feel guilty & confused that our love had fueled his thought abt divorcing his wife.
2006-07-20 03:31:26 · 16 answers · asked by Zahirr M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go for it...just wait until he's completely divorced and you've waited the required amount of time for whatever state you live in.
2006-07-20 03:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Zabana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a pretty hard one. You are not sure if she is telling you the truth or not. You are taking your chances. I know I am a manic depressant and I don't do things like that on meds or not on meds. Yes she needs counseling and if you stand by her great, but if you get hurt then at least you tried. Love can make you do somethings but to lie to your partner is not one of them. Picking up the pill popping or drinking what ever is a sign of self medicating. Give her a few months go to the counselor with out her once and see how she has come in those few months. If no progress or she may be lying to the counselor or still to you then let her go. There is someone out there for everyone and just maybe you haven't met her as of yet. Good luck.
2016-03-27 00:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you shouldn't be involved with him until he's had the chance to "mourn" the end of that relationship. And like a real death, it can take up to two years.
Otherwise, you will only serve as a constant reminder to him that you were there at the end of his relationship, and in a few years, he just may look for someone else.
Sounds like your last line says he's leaving his wife "fueled" for you. And you have contradicted yourself.
This isn't good.
You should both go your separate ways and see if you still want to be together in a year or two.
If he has a child, are you ready for all that also?
He's tied to his ex for the rest of his life because of the child. There will probably be child support to pay, which takes away from your lives together, and visitation which interferes with your lives together.
You need to think if you really want all this in your own life. In my opinion, it just brings on more problems for you.
Good Luck in whatever you decide to do.
2006-07-20 04:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by reignydey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guilt should have began when you started dating a married man even though he's separated. Things happen where the marriage might still have revived if he had not gotten involved with an outside person (you). So, you will continue being the Mistress if his wife don't want to let him go. If he tries marrying you, it will be against the law depending on the state you live in.
2006-07-20 03:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can marry him with a clean conscience. Perhaps your love is the catalyst to help him see the beauty that can be in a relationship, but that is a good thing. With a child, logistics & custody arrangements will cut into your time together. Together you can be a beautiful family, it is possible. Note that it only takes 1 person to be "ready" for a divorce, unfortunately, but if he and she can maintain a friendship, in the long term it is better than being trapped in a loveless marriage.
2006-07-20 03:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by twentyfourseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he legally married? if he is, then u can't marry him as that will be bigamy. I'll advise u let him work out his divorce, give hi some time to get his acts together before u consider marriage. good luck
2006-07-20 03:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by joke oh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even think about marriage until his devorce papers are final...you should not even be intimate with this man he is married! if you set yourself up for life with this guy and he just strings you along, you are gonna endup like one of those women that go sphyco and start stalking him or his wife, or kill them both...you cant let a married man keep your emotions tied like that, if he chooses to stay with his wife and "work it out" could you handle it? you obviousely cant marry him until his devorce is final anyway, and most states have a waiting phase for marriage after a devorce...
good luck, but dont lower yourself to "the other woman"wait till hes devorced to persue this....
2006-07-20 03:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haiz...your situation sounds so much like mine.
you dont have to feel guilty or confused. perhaps you should think in this way: they wan a divorce becos their relationship has so many cracks built over the years of marriage and now it can no longer be mended. hence the marriage break. thats their own problem. YOU DUN HV SO MUCH POWER TO BREAK THEIR "STRONG " RELATIONSHIP (if theres any). soooo pls dun be depressed.
2006-07-20 03:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he not divorce yet and you are and you two are together yes i do think you fueled his though about geting a divorce can you blame him why areyou so confuse about this and you are feeling guility i think you want some one to feel sorry for you lol brcause of the guilit you have in you good luck
2006-07-20 03:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to gett married to a man who is going through a bad marriage. give him AT LEAST 2 years to get over his ex AFTER the divorce is finalized, otherwise his problems with her will turn into YOUR problems. trust me you're better off finding someone that is unattached!
2006-07-20 03:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by small town gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋