Well I am in a long term relationship. I love this amn very much. We are planing on getting married. Here is the problem this other guy will not leave me alone. I just flirted with him. How can I tell him to leave me alone nicely or am I going to have to be mean??
2006-07-20 03:30:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby girl, in the nicest way, just tell him that you're getting married and it ain't cool to start anything with him. if that doesn't work, then show him your fangs.
2006-07-20 03:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations to you and your fiance. Secondly, it was probably a bad idea to flirt with a man you were trying to get away from. If you want him to leave you alone, you should either tell him so or ignore him. Flirting with him might suggest that you want to be more than friends. Also, you really shouldn't flirt with a man who isn't your fiance, because that's who you love, right???
As for telling the guy how to leave you alone, here are some suggestions:
a) Try to be nice. Tell him that you're engaged and that you don't like him. If you want to, suggest being friends. You guys can hang out as long as he knows you're not romantically interested in him.
b) If he's not the type to listen to your reasoning, ignore him. If he follows or stalks you, you need to report him to the police.
c) Talk it out and ask him why he pesters you so much. Maybe there's a hidden meaning. Who knows? If he gets angry, leave and talk to him when he's calmer. If he starts to ignore you, you can either 1) ask for forgiveness and be friends or 2) isn't this what you wanted, for him to leave you alone? Go plan your wedding!
Hope that helps.
2006-07-20 10:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him honestly that you are planning to get married..you dun have to be mean..i bet he will leave you alone after that...unless you want to carry on to flirt with him..an advise to you, you can't have the best of both world, you better get this settle fast before the man you love found out...
2006-07-20 10:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by valane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't leave you alone then tell him nicely...and if that doesn't work just be very blunt with him. No point in leading him on if you are very much in love with someone else. Don't complicate your life and your relationship, just tell him 'not interested'.
2006-07-20 10:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm in the same situation. I believe you should go about it nicely first, but if you can't get the point across then you'll need to be mean
2006-07-20 10:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just flirting with him has caused him to take it that you are open for sex.if you are going to flirt with anyone and you are serious about this other guy ,you will flirt with him after you are married .make up your mind which one you want before you take this poor sucker down the alsle.i wouldn't like you for a daughter -in-law
2006-07-20 10:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already addressed the issue before then your just going to have to be very clear and tell him straight out that your not interested.
2006-07-20 10:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl just end that thing just, u love ur man...its doesnt matter if u r mean with the other guy...just tell him u r going to get married with a guy u love...
2006-07-20 10:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your worried about this man then you need to be firm.
tell him your more than happy with your partner and how you cant wait to get married.
Tell him no other man compares to him and you'll only ever love him.
If he doesnt get the hint after this then your only option is to be nasty and tell him to F.O
2006-07-20 10:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u already told him then its going to have to be asitdown with u,him, and ur boyfriend but if he ahvent just tell him u got a boyfriend and its time he move on .
2006-07-20 10:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋