2006-07-20 03:11:57 · 29 answers · asked by joke oh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, Do you respect him? Does he allow you to communicate? If he doesn't work on Respect and Communication. You need to get the help to be able to TELL HIM what you just said in that statement? ...If you cannot then you have to start with the basics, find out how best to approach him and how best to find out how to communicate with him, even if you need a professional counselor at first.
2006-07-20 15:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright.... You can think back to the love that you shared when it was new and the feelings that you had when you married the man. Figure out when and why it changed and fix it.
When that does not work you can pay the big $$ and have someone else tell you to think back to why you married him in the first place. This person will tell you what to say to each other and what you need to do to change so you are in love again. Chances are this will not work since the therapist will be a third wheel in everything that you do and there is no such thing as a PAIR of three unless you are playing poker.
6 months down the road you will realize that you still do not love him, you cannot make yourself do it. You see, love does not happen that way.
~~You need to sit down and tell him. You are wasting his time too. It won't be pretty, though.
And if all else fails and you chicken out.... I would have to agree with taking the easy road out and banging his brother. :)
2006-07-20 12:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by brain~fried 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not in love with my husband when we first got married, I feel in love with him after year number 13 it is now year number 16. I have always loved him just not in love. He has always loved me and been in love with me. So are you confusing being in love with just love, we were created to have some type of love for everybody, so you do love him the question is to what level. I think you should define what love is and reflect on why you married him and start from there. Hope things work out for both of you.
2006-07-20 10:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a lot of angry people answering this question. I feel that if you don't love him, then don't waist his time. Give the both of you the opportunity to move on. If you're not happy then you shouldn't fake it, because when he does find out you are not happy, some things could change.
But I'll tell you this, if you ever had to miss him, you will find out just how much you either love him or miss him. Remember the grass always looks greener on the other side, but it may just look that way.
2006-07-20 10:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to love him, but when it comes to marriage you need to be in love with him. Examine the things you like about him and see if that helps you feel more for him, if you can't fall in love with him, then let him go so that he can love someone who will love him back the same.
2006-07-20 10:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by TexasBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him? Did you love him when that happened? If so whatever it was that you loved about him then is what you look for now to have things revived within yourself. Time takes care of most things if given a chance, so don't give up.
2006-07-20 10:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think why you married him and the good in him, if he loves you then there is something shared there. Love grows with time. If you really want to be with him, then it will come.
2006-07-20 10:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by only14life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant.
If you dont love your husband and cant find it in yourself to love him,you never will.
2006-07-20 10:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an answer you need to get from a counselor at this point. You can't force yourself to love someone.
2006-07-20 10:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force yourself to love someone. Why did you marry him in the first place?!?!?!?!?! You can, however, love situations, lifestlyes and familiarity... fall in love with the marriage and the life you have together, and you might devlope love for him, too.
2006-07-20 10:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by ziz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋