After almost a week of thinking time, he contacted me last night and said he wanted me, said he wanted to see me yet when i questioned what he wanted from me.. he said he didn't know. So it appears that he wants to meet for ????(he said quote "want u") and I guess he wants to figure the rest out afterwards (?). He got upset when I asked if he wanted our relationship to continue and stated he wanted more time-which I told him to take... yet he wants to see me. He asked me why i was 'pushing him'. He has said he loves me but I'm so tired of these games (he states he is not playing games and that is why he needs time to think b/c i say things like that). I do love him. Have i wasted my time on him or should i see him when he wants and state we need to talk and nothing else? I hate to give up on him, I know he has feelings for me and loves me in his own way... yet i keep asking myself - is it enough?
2006-07-20 02:41:50 · 21 answers · asked by Seeking Answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds to me like he's pretty selfish and immature. Value yourself more and find someone that will respect you and treat you the way you deserve. Be careful about following your heart in that situation, sometimes you need a dose of common sense. Unless you want to be hurt in the long run, you'll leave that alone. If you have to ask yourself if you're wasting your time, then you probably are.
2006-07-20 02:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy has got to be young and may feel the pressure of commitment without having felt as though he has lived a free spirited life yet. He may in fact only want sex right now in his life instead of a commitment. However, if this isn't what your feeling you want to do you can remain friends with him, but tell him when he's ready to be serious he knows where he can find you (If your still available). This will let him know that you are serious about being with him, but that your life won't be placed on hold until he comes around.
2006-07-20 02:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really sit down and evaluate your situation, hard but true, every guy says he loves you even if it is not real "love"....remember, guys are not like girls, guys don't value love until they really fall in love with someone they can't live without, and that doesn't mean he always hangs with you and stuff, that means he can respect you, your feelings, your friends, your lifestyle, etc. I believe you should take this "time" that you have and go out, hang with your friends, meet new people, I understand you have feelings towards him, but you should know that we are meant to love a lot of people in one lifetime, there are different kinds of love, and maybe just maybe you are going to meet someone who values you a lot more than he does, someone that can show you he will go out of his way just to see you and say hello, not to ask for sex. This is a common mistake among young women, they break-up and end up in a vicious cycle of "let see if it works", you have sex and then he is going to continue on his way, until a week or two later he's asking for more. DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, you are worth a lot more, and come on, we don't need sex like they do, even if you really like it, you know you can hold on, so be hard on him, say no, and continue spending your time with people who deserve it, didn't you guys separate to have some "time" for a reason, just to let you know, but aren't those reasons still there??? Come on, in a week NO ONE can think about what they want or how they feel, in a week you can miss someone and want to see them, specially when you ahve been together for a while. You should at least let a month go by, if he is still calling and insisting, maybe you should sit down and talk, see how he reacts, how he's changed....maybe you'll see that in a month he already has another life. Also, he you are going to stay separated for a while, don't let him manipulate you, calling you all the time and trying to know everything you are doing, you need to be strong, believe me I have been there. Don't fool yourself, and even if you have strong feelings towards him, you should have stronger feelings for yourself......I know it's hard to let go when you care, but believe me when I say, there is always something better when you finally let go of something that wasn't enough.....think about it.....Good Luck
2006-07-20 02:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to read all the way through... basically, he's not had any for 1 week and he's getting frustrated. Tell him that he can see you and you can sit and look at him... and if he tries it on with you say 'But I thought you wanted to see me'.
Just get rid of him, he's a waste of time and totally not committed, and quite pathetic. Then when you get rid of him, if you hear that he's got off with someone else over the next week, then don't regret it one bit!
2006-07-20 02:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what you want. Everyday we get a little older. Tomorrow is promised to no one. So you can waste your time and let time run out on you, or you can get with someone who really wants you and get what you deserve in life and in a relationship.
A few words for the wise::::: You are wasting your time.
2006-07-20 02:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not pushing for a answer thats wanting to know your status of relationship with him...if he cant be straight foward and is not able to tell you anything more than he wants you...he is not so into you as you think and if you do what he wants hes jus gonna use you and leave..i would say tighten your seat belts or...RUN FOR THE HEELS:::theres no point hanging around..
2006-07-20 02:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by kapatikana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you play hard to get which you should and stop calling him, tell him you want to wait til your married for sex, only then will you see what he wants you for. If he leaves then it just saved you a lot of grief, if he stays there might be something there. Be very prepared for him to try to make you feel guilty.
2006-07-20 02:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Go Rush! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get inside his head and figure him out. Trust your gut feeling...believe me, you need to move on and put this relationship behind you. Keep your self respect and don't ever let a guy use you for sex...
2006-07-20 03:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh, yes, sorry to say, but you have TOTALLY wasted your time with this weirdo... if he's so complex and so incomprehensible, just leave him. Now. Don't wait. Don't let him ask why or let him keep you with his ridiculously odd games. Just GO. Good luck!!
2006-07-20 02:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bang Bang
2006-07-20 02:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by pbatmanq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋