Women work in the real world now too, then go home to kids,housework,laundry,bills,dinner,dog...etc. Men need to do there part too. But my husband says he works a physical labor job.. so he's too tired when he gets home. But not for PSP or TV.!!
2006-07-20 02:39:56 · 13 answers · asked by MarlaMaples 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you both work then you split the chores .its simple
2006-07-20 02:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by polockpete40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if men will ever realize all that we do in addition to working full time,there is the laundry,the cleaning, the bills, the dishes etc etc etc.. I could go on forever. I get annoyed at my husband sometimes because while I realize he does work hard, he still needs to help out when he gets home. He cuts the grass once a week, that is the extent of his labor around the house, I can understand it to a point because if there was every any "real" work, like electrical, remodeling etc, he would be the one for that job. We try and share our duties, although at times I still feel like I am the one doing all of the work. I think physical labor is equally exhausting as the kind of work I do, i.e. mentally exhausting being on computers all day.....he should help out, even if he does one chore each day he comes home..like Friday is garbage day, so he gathers all the trash and takes it out...or he does the dishes on a Wednesday..that way you can share the chores, but he won't ever feel like he is doing all the work...just a little bit at a time to keep the house running smoothly.
2006-07-20 09:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both work full time jobs then you need to split the stuff around the house. You can do the one or two ways. One of you can do most of the stuff in side while the other does the outside then they can help with some stuff inside. Me on the other hand even when I was married. I did most when I was married and my Ex only worked 3 days a week. She was two busy running the roads. I do all the house work and all the outside work( my two kids help some). My g/f does alot when she is at the house, That really helps me out. You need to talk to your partner about all of this. From my past this can cause alot of fights. Mine were everyday when I got home. It can be really stressful on you both. Everyone should pull there own weight around the house. It is not just a woman's job to do the things around the house. I was raised to be independent and not need anyone for nothing. I can thank my mother for that. Just tell them how you feel about it all. Good luck
2006-07-20 09:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I cannot totally understand your exact situation, I can empathize. I do not outside of the home but I am a stay at home mom that has five children and one on the way. When my husband started complaining that his job was easier than mine and that I should have no problem getting EVERYTHING done around the house in a day, I came up with my perfect plan. He had kept saying on how it looked like I sat around and did nothing all day. Well, that is exactly what I did one day. He came home to a total mess. I did nothing all day. I played with kids and left the dishes on the counter. After that day, he realized how much work I actually do every day. Best of luck.
2006-07-20 10:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by blondie7795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to have a reality check and get off his duff and help you. Seriously.... go a week or so without doing the laundry or housework, feed just your kids and yourself (only) and see what happens. I guarantee you it will have an impact on him. Tell him that if he wants HIS needs taken care of, he will need to pitch in and help with the whole scheme of things. He's not a child to be pampered and babied. You are NOT his mama... you are his wife and 50/50 partner in life. He needs to stop taking advantage of you and start being a man! The only way this WON'T work is if you give in and continue being his enabler. It's gonna be tough for the first few days, but worth it in the long run! Good luck.
2006-07-20 09:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my husband. He thought that because I had a desk job I wasn't working as hard as he did. Guess he forgot that when I got home I had another 8 hours or so of work left to do .. .while he could sit around in his underwear and watch tv.
No answer afraid, just another woman joining in on this cause.
BTW - He is now the ex. He had energy enough for another woman.
2006-07-20 09:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by ladyangelovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. Tell him exactly what you are saying right now. Make it clear. But for your sake and his, dont nag on him, that would just frustate him. Short sentences about how you feel and a solution to the problem does it pretty good. Come up with ideas of what you are going to do around the house and HIS share of the chores. If he doesnt do it, leave it there. He has to realize you are tired too and need his help. Good luck.
2006-07-20 09:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by quentina_tarantina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on Strike! That is what I did. I made sure the baby and I ate and ONLY DID OUR LAUNDRY. this azzhole called his aunt and complained and told her i informed her that he wasn't doing shitt around the house but yet can come home at 3 am after getting off at 6pm drunk and the audacity to want to have sex! oh yeah and like the other responder he too had time for another women. amazing????
2006-07-20 09:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by spoiled r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could stop doing the other things until he gets tired of the mess and pitches in. explane to him that physical labor is what he does to give him the psp and tv and that u work to help him have them. and mental labor is just as hard. and that his responsibility doesn't stop when his work day is done.
2006-07-20 15:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by bonny b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what u mean. We get home last night and hubby is too tired to talk to the kids, but has no problem talking on the phone to his buddies. And sits on his @$$ all night while i bust mine around the house after working 12 hours!
2006-07-20 09:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by onehot_mama23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to step up that's all there is to it. i'm a man, who on the other hand works 40+ a week and does the laundry, dishes, cooks, the yard work and cleans(not great but better than not at all like she does). just not sure where people get off not pullin' their share
2006-07-20 09:52:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋