My husband leaves me for a receptionist. Says he wants to work things out & I buy in to it each time & take him back. This last time I saw that he was still calling her & filed for divorce & put all his belongings on the portch. He has his girlfriend come to my home & pick up his things. I wasnt home so no use crying over spilt milk but a ballsy move. 9pm he comes over w/ her to pick up his 2nd car. Needless to say we all get in to a physical altercation. Basically he brought her to my house & I brought a can of whoop a**. This chick has been harrassing the crap out of me for months. Driving by my home, calling me talking trash, texting me to the point where I had to change my number 3x's. Did she finally get what she deserves? Oh and we also have two children that he spends little time w/ & forget about child support. I look at it as she gets looser husband & a beating well deserved. Am I wrong? Cause it felt good.
2006-07-20 02:38:25 · 30 answers · asked by SunshineSparkles1976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes good luck, most of all you can find better, and you are worth doing it on your own
2006-07-20 02:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart PLEASE, I too went through the same damn thing (well sort of) with my sorry a.s.s exhusband, just without the physical altercation. See I agree she has him and U have his kids.U WON HONEY, U got the best of him with U now and what's left over that home-wrecker can HAVE. U & Ur kids are better off without him, I do though feel sorry for the kids just like my son, they do need a father in there life, and it's not their fault that the only one they have to call dad is a low life little or nothing of a man. But look @ it like I did. NOW'S UR CHANCE, now's Ur chance to show Ur kids that EVERYONE goes through hard times in their lives, it how we get through them that makes us the person that we are. Teach Ur children that even though U pour Ur heart and soul into things that sometimes they just don't work out.That's life, but mom will ALWAYS be there when they need her. Show them that mommy can take care of them just as good on her own as she did with their father, it just may take a little more time and understanding on their part, but that together U ALL will just fine because U have each other.
As for this other woman, I wouldn't loose another moments sleep about her, see I have learned that people who s*** on other people, well before long they get JUST what they deserve. So let him have her and vise versa, then go on with Ur life, he WILL regret what he has chosen and by that time, U and Ur kids may not even want him. I suggest U hang strong to Ur girlfriends, they will be there for U in Ur time of need and if nothing else they will take Ur mind off Ur troubles if only for a few minutes. KEEP URSELF BUSY....That's the key. U'll be amazed at how when the chips are down, as a woman, better yet, as a mother, we step up to the plate and handle our responsibilites.
Good Luck to U and Ur kids, I hope things work out for U.
P.S. Leave that female alone, be an example to Ur children that just because someone is ugly too U, U can be the better person and walk away. Ur kids are watching U whether U realize it or not.
2006-07-20 02:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly can't blame you for kicking her azz, but I doubt that will stop the harrassment, it might get worse. Next time she shows her face, just sit there and laugh smugly at her. If she asked why you are snickering at her, just say it is so funny that now she is stuck with Mr Looser, who is about to be broke Mr Looser when you take everything he owns for child support. You'll get the last laugh. I bet your looser husband comes crying back after his girlfriend leaves him because he is broke. Heck, I'm laughing already.
2006-07-20 02:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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It is not HER that deserves the beating.
Nor you.
This man is a cheat, and a loser dead-beat-dad financially.
He'll eventually hurt HER heart too. That's what cheats do...he doesn't work on solving problems at home, he just moves to the next gullible chick, and then the next, and then the next.
YOU are the lucky one here. I KNOW you are hurting, but all of this got this CHEAT and LOSER out of your life.
Next time, look for a man that proves he is TRUSTWORTHY, and gives you respects and is your best-friend. Somene who knows how to work out problems and make compromises (without huge fights); and knows how to be fair and give equal sharing and caring. That's a lot, but it is all essential to a relationship to last and be a good one.
Only give your heart in small increments equal to what you are receiving, and you will do well.
I wish you love
stw
;)
2006-07-20 02:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like he got what he deserved....her on the other hand needs a lesson taught to her. could call 5o and file harrassment charges, get her on the answering machine saying those things, or on a speaker phone with someone else listening to verify her threats. but you need to stop playing small ball and play hard ball!! file for divorce with child support(back child support also) and move on. hope life treats you well in the future, doll!!
RIGHT ALL THE WAY
2006-07-20 02:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation but you need to think of your kids. As much as you are hurting you need to set an example for them. This man is their father and if he chooses to be with another women then so be it. Be the better person and move on, as hard as it is pretend it doesn't bother you. Ignore her, let on it doesn't bug you and hopefully she will back off. OH yeah and the child support thing...take him to court... You are right about one thing she gets the loser...LOL Good luck
2006-07-20 03:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by chillilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely right! I would have done the same. And now just be satisfied with the fact that he is gone and that one day his new girlfriend will be in the same situation your in now. You KNOW that he will do this to her also.
I wish you well in your new life! Take care of your kids and just let him go, your kids will be better off without him from the sound of it. Good Luck!
2006-07-20 02:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he should be the person you are after. He is the 1 who made a commitment and children with you. I hope your kids didn't witness this. Call Domestic relations and get the kids their money!
Wishing you and your children the best
2006-07-20 03:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rock on Sista! I would have done the same thing!
But in the end she can have him right?! YOu don't want that kind of role model for your children...If you want a new father figure for your children go out and get one! You deserve to be happy!
2006-07-20 02:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no girl you have to fight not for him but for respect and if you gave her a good *** kickin she wont talk **** anymore that ***** got what was comming to her breakin up a home with kids i hate girls like that they cant find a man that is not tied up in a relationship with a married woman and kids who the hell does she think that she is by going to your house, what is she trying to make you know she is with him...well guess what you made her know who the hell you are YOU GO GIRL and make sure that ***** dont come back
2006-07-20 02:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by barbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction was understandable, but wrong. When you react that way, the other person wins.
I know you are hurting. I suggest you talk to a counselor or someone else who can help you work through the anger and pain. It's what's best for you and your children.
2006-07-20 02:42:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋