Ok, I have a problem Ive been with my man for 4 years and we get along good and we have a good sex life, The thing that is concerning me is I was on my computer the other day and noticed he was on all these diffrent porn sites and when I went to watch Tv the other night he had all these adult naked women shows recorded? He seems to have an obssesion with women and it concerns me he said he likes to "window shop" I dont understand Ive been told Im a very good looking girl so if thats true why does he feel the need to"window shop" my question is should I leave his *** to find someone who is going to respect me and my feelings or is this normal behaivor for a 31 yr old man??
2006-07-20 02:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by fred g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should heed the warning. The relationship could lead to serious problems since your man seems to be so visual. You might be a good looking woman but that does not have anything to do with his problem.
Save yourself the headache later on and communicate with him now.
2006-07-20 02:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i understand the porn part, that i can get by but when he says he needs to window shop that crosses the line big time. 1. he's never going to meet women like this ever nor will he find anyone that has had that much surgery. 2. he isn't aware of your feelings, i mean any girl would be upset about your boyfriend telling you he likes to window shop. window shopping is just looking at things you wish you had but you don't so you have to settle, if you feel like he's just settling with you kick his a s s to the curb.
Maybe you should talk to him about it because that does sound ridiculous to me check ya later â¥
2006-07-20 09:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ The One You Love To Hate♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, why don't you watch some porn with him and see what it's all about. Could be that you get turned on as well. It might be good for the relationship. It is not about disrespecting you at all. Not about you.
Maybe he wants something during sex that you will not do, so he watches it on the PC or TV.
Just because he's watching it, does not mean he's loves you any less.
2006-07-20 09:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say the sex is good, he could possibly getting his ideas from the movies. I do. There is nothing wrong with him looking and maybe you should consider watching with him.
I would; however, be concerned about his comment "window shopping", to me that means potential to buy. Ask him to elaborate. Because if he's considering making a purchase, kick is A__ to the curb!
2006-07-20 09:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 32 and I dont do it but everyone is different. Talk to him about it makes you feel. Tell him your concerns. If he dont respect that then maybe you need to find someone that will. Has he just started this? Maybe thats what you need to find out, maybe there is something else behind it all. Do you guys have sex(or make love) alot? If not that could be a reason. Maybe he is finding ways to please him self. Maybe your not doing it? Just talk to him about it and find out the truth. Good luck
2006-07-20 09:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl to me that is nasty i dont think i could put up with a man that loves porn period because that starts to take over in the relationship but i see it like this talk to him about tell him how you feel and if it still tends to be a problem then decide what you are going to do because that means he doesn't respect what you stand for/
2006-07-20 09:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by ashepoohgunitlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont throw away ur whole relationship for this quit yet. Talk to him and tell him ur feeling,find out why it has started or if its been goin on all this time! It is quit normal for men to do these sort of things..BUT make sure hes not cheating on u for real. Dont let it get too far out of hand. GOODluck!!
2006-07-20 09:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by sassibriches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that men just want to see naked women, period I wouldn't really worry unless he goes to chat rooms, and has contact with women, looking doesn't hurt, maybe you should look at some naked men and see how he likes it. It could spice up your sex life.
2006-07-20 09:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-07-21 04:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal for a man of ANY age and i wouldn't worry about it. Men need to have different types of stimulation and they are visual creatures who get turned on by what they see, not what they think (like women can do). it does not mean he doesn't love you and care for you.
2006-07-20 09:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by plastik_persephone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋