Regular fights because of in laws interference in spite staying far away. does it look good in front of small kids?how to solve it out?
2006-07-20 02:14:28 · 19 answers · asked by PALLU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well you need to trust each other more
2006-07-20 02:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to have arguments and disagreements. If you weren't that would mean that one spouse was completely dominant, and the other completely submissive (not healthy). What you can do is make your arguments calmer, and more loving.
Start with validating each other's feelings. Say things like "yeah, I can see why you would feel like that" and ask him "Do you see why I would feel that way?" Try to state the problem objectively "I have a problem because I see...., and you see it like..." Ask your husband for possible solutions to try (guys love this), and agree on one to try first.
About fighting in front of your kids - personal story - I came home from college for a vacation to find my parents arguing all week. I was really worried, so individually, I asked each of them how their marriage was. Do you know what they both told me? They both said "It's really good!" They both explained to me that you can have arguments and a strong, loving marriage. They both knew that in time they would work through this. I think they kept fighting for a little while after that, but I didn't notice it as much, or worry at all. Maybe that's a conversation you want to have with your kids to help them not be too worried.
Good luck!
2006-07-20 04:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fights are good for relationships. It takes rain and sun to make rainbows. It is wonderful when you work through the fight and learn new things on how to have your relationship grow. Fighting in front of the children is good, as long as it doesn't get violent. It teaches the children that it takes work to have a relationship. It is not all flowers. Your children learn from you. If you stick together and work through the problems, you are setting the best example for your children you will ever set. Relationships take work. Too many divorces these days. Divorces hurt the children as well. Never give up!!!
You will be in my prayers.
God Bless
2006-07-20 02:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage has fights. You just have to pick your battles and be sure not to let them happen in front of the little ones. In laws are going to interfere no matter what. Don't expect your marriage to be perfect because no marriage is. Try to control your anger and work things out by talking and no shouting. Hope this helps!
2006-07-20 02:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never argue infront of the children adn never contradict each others decisions about upraising infront of the kids either! But hell about the in laws, try to stay away from them usualy they just want to control the way their children raise a family and run a marraige and thats not healthy. Stay away a while and only love, reapect, trust, and complete and total honesty will maintain you all happy and healthy!!! Don't forget the sex, always keep that aflame!
2006-07-20 02:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You don't have to have "Fights". Going into another area away from the kids and having a discussion is the way to do it.
The biggest thing to remember: ATTACK THE PROBLEM NOT EACH OTHER!
The world and everything in it is out to breakup your marriage so you and your spouse have to stand together and fight off the attacks. Together you win. Fighting each other---you both lose.
And no the other person is NOT the PROBLEM. Once you understand this principle you can work things out with out hurting each other or the kids.
Good Luck,
Bob
2006-07-20 02:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Bingo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily. Love and sex are 2 seperate entities that overlap somewhat. all of us may have sex. A monkey can do it. no longer all of us can make someone smile even as they're unhappy, or be there once you want them. Love is about help and mutual happiness. certain sex is positive, it is relaxing, yet so is cuddling up on the settee and staring at a tremendous action picture. there is extra to love and extra to existence than sex and besides the actuality that if the sex isn't so warm or non-existent a courting may be priceless and pleasant only by using having a closeness or an intimacy with some different person.
2016-10-15 00:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by filonuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in laws will be in laws... it may have to come to a point where the person may have to confront their family to let them know that there interference is not needed or appreciated, and wont be tolerated! if it continues, possibly ending contact for a while...
you both are a union, no one should be able to come between you.. as far as fighting in front of the kids, both of you should be able to agree not to fight in front of the kids regardless of how intense the conversation gets...one of you has got to be the bigger person and say to the other...we will talk about this later...
believe me, i know you want to get everything out right there but you have to learn to hold off while in front of the kids...
2006-07-20 02:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN laws are the cause of friction in many marriages. My wife and my mother detested each other and when she visited I had one and then the other crying on my shoulder about how terrible the other woman was. Fortunately, I managed to live far away from my mother. I suggest you find employment in a distant city.
2006-07-20 02:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why must in-laws interfere in their kids .marriages for?give them a miss.like i did mine.some years back and broke ties with them.its best this way.well as for.....fights?as long as 2 person lives in the same roof.its hard.to have harmony all the time.neither its practical to tolerate ,and give in all the time.so....well for me after 23 years of marriages.i maintain my distance,,avoid talk with someone i am bound to disagree with instead i try to just tolerate the person cos we have grow up and young kids yet,,,but we just tolerate,each other.after years of battle.and when the last kid grow up..i don't see myself in the relatioship.agaiin.well for me i wud rather walk way,rather then sacrifice my peace,and live in hell.with someone who does not think the same way i do,and does not respect me, so.my views are:either the two of u compromise.tolerate and straighten things out.or separate.for good and ignore each other.
2006-07-20 02:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by brasil_mulher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fights are normal in any marriage more if u donot have.a proper sexual outlet and it is a sad thing if it is because of in laws . first of all both of u shd trust each other completely andshd sort out your priorities. Secondly dont allow your respective parents to have any say in your marriage and uphold the honour and prestige of your spouse in front of your parents and vice versa . I think it might help you solve your problem
2006-07-20 02:42:35 · answer #11 · answered by emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋