What is the "code of conduct" for family members when someone goes through divorce? I let everybody in my family know that I was leaving my wife for another woman. I had their blessings and total support. As soon as I left my wife, my brother seems to be on my ex's side. It was because as he puts it, that I used him to see the new woman and I misused his trust. Here is a brother that has gone through his own divorce and we all supported him and his was much worse than mine. He has totally excluded me from his family functions and invited my ex many times and tells her everything he knows about my affair. My parents and other family members are confused but do not want to rock the boat even more and stay out of it. Even my ex says he is off the wall about his feelings toward me. The funny thing is, I have always helped him, Gave him a place to live, signed for a loan, found him a job, loaned him money, helped him move, etc....Isn't there a code? Is he out of bounds or what?
2006-07-20 02:06:00 · 3 answers · asked by amy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The is no code that I know of. However, blood is thicker than water, I would think that he would either stand by you or remain neutral. I can understand remaining friendly with your ex - especially if children are involved (cousins etc) but to exclude you that stupid. Is your brother still single, maybe its the attention she gives him that is swaying his actions. I hope things work out for you.
2006-07-20 02:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no code. She is his friend. Give it time.
2006-07-20 09:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's in love with your ex ... maybe... and mad cuz you hurt her...
2006-07-20 09:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋