why do some people have fantastic lives while others dont?

Question

some people seem to have all the luck/money/partners/lifestlyle, but i dont. i'm intellegent and i earn a fair wage, but it just goes. i dont have any luck, everything goes wrong and i usually end up asking why my life is so s***?

Answer 1

When you look at someone else's life and they seem to have the "things" or "qualities" you believe would make YOUR life better, their life looks perfect to you. But the human condition is that nobody really has all that THEY want. They may get blessed with all the material goods and things, but that isn't really what they want. There are plenty of people with a lot of stuff, and relationships, but if they were truthful, they probably would say they weren't happy.

The people with the most peace of mind are probably those that have very little. In fact, yahoo printed an article about the Happiest Country in the world and it was a little pacific island where people lived off the land and had basically nothing to worry about.

So, it looks like happiness comes from inside. The ability to not take life so seriously and to relax and enjoy what we have rather than keep wanting stuff everyone else has.

Answer 2

There is nothing magic about the people you talk about.
Luck plays no part in what happens to us.
We may have beautiful parents, therefore we may be one of the pretty people but it does not guarantee anything else.

Here are some of the traits you need to be one of those people.

1): Optimism. What you think you can do you will.
2): See and plan where you want your future to go.
3): Prepare now for what it takes to have that future success. Education!
4): If you are in your early 20's and you begin saving just a few dollars a day in the stock market you will be a millionaire by retirement. Guaranteed.

The difference between the people you talk about and how you see yourself is that they believe, and work hard to obtain, there was never any other way.

Regardless of who you may be talking about what you don't see is how hard the work to get there. Only ones that don't are the ones that had it given to them. Not that many of them out there.

People today think they should be rich by 30 or they have failed. Not true at all.

One of the best examples of someone you think has it all is Donald Trump. Did you know that he has been rich and flat broke many many times. But he always knew that he would get it back and never let it stop him. That, more than anything else, makes the difference.

Additional:

What the people you talk about do, that is perhaps the most important, is make the right decisions about everything they do. Because of their good self esteem they expect nothing but the best and settle for nothing less.

Answer 3

luck equals preperation plus oppertunity. Sounds trite, but it has never let me down.

I have never planned for anything in my life, what i have done is make sure i am prepared to take advantage of any oppertunity that comes along. This involves:

staying out of debt- can't run off to the other side of the world, meet mr right and learn how to ski and have a fab time when you have 20 grand of visa debt around you neck. This means driving a banger when all your friends have lovely HP cars, living within your means, don't buy the absolutely most expensive house you can afford, down grade a couple of notches, give yourself some breathing space.

being sociable- how else are you going to find out about the oppertunities,

don't follow the crowd- forget it, forget it, forget it. If you follow the crowd, someone will have always picked up oppertunities before you, hence the crowd.

Being able to spot users/hangers on, people who if you get involved with are not going to improve your life. Spot them from the outset, and dump them pronto. Do not be polluted by their presence.

Get your self to highest possible level of eduaction you can. I don't mean hobby courses, but university. If you already have a bachelors, take the oppertunities for post grad study. It never hurts, and doing it properly, believe it or not, actually makes you a smarter person than you were before.

Have enough confidence in yourself that you know that being alone and unpopular for a while does not automatically relfect on you. Be emotionally self-sufficiant.

Answer 4

Money is not happiness, we might think that people that have money are happy, if they were, why there is more divorces in rich people then in medium class people?

Money is something that it has to be well manage, not matter if its a lot or is little. I don't receive a big wage of money, but I know how to manage it and I always have money in my pocket.

See Michael Jackson, wow, he has a palace and everything you think he might need. No, he doesn't have everything he needs that is why because he is in trouble, he even has bill collectors coming to his house. Cause there is a saying, the more you get the more you spend.

So all you need is to well manage your money and you will be happy. Much is not the answer of happiness, controlling you self and good self esteem is happiness, without harming other or envy anything from anyone.

Answer 5

Great quesion.
There's no such thing as luck.
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Answer 6

Chris its ok mate, your focusing too plenty on your unhappiness. On facebook ask human beings how they're and despite if your no longer involved pretend to be. Like their prestige's and tell them how large that's despite they're chuffed approximately of their life. what's going to make you chuffed? Visualise it each evening, be honest with your self, there could be some thing which you rather choose. try to locate some thing to do creatively which would be a great to your unhappiness. possibly you ought to write poetry, thoughts, draw photos, purchase a guitar, write, sing songs, some human beings do no longer even understand what melancholy is, or how you will sense that unhappy so in the event that they appeared at your artwork you would be teaching them. possibly your friends sense your misery or possibly your on the incorrect life direction and that they do no longer seem to be your destiny. you would be ok. additionally having a spouse, infants and not being a virgin isn't continuously the respond to your happiness. in case you concentration on being unhappy then you definitely will continuously be like it, so make small differences.

Answer 7

The question is why does everything go wrong. I have a cousin who complains about the same thing but she does it to herself. Drinking while driving the company car, wrecks it and wonders why she was fired. Always borrowing money from family members and gets mad when you ask for it back. Make sure you are not doing this to yourself. Be positive and make sure you are doing positive things.

Answer 8

Happiness is an inside job
I understand where you are coming from
I was there once too
But I learned to make friends, accept I will not become high society, and accept myself
I take interest in people if we have a lot in common or nothing
People like to be liked, liking other people, and not worrying so much that they like ME or that I like ME makes the difference
Sure, its a hokey answer but its working for me

Answer 9

its just the way you take life. life is only for the ones who deserve it. do one thing, get on the other side and look at life from a different angle. you'll see how lucky you can get
or do one thing, whenever something bad happens to you, just think of those ppl who dont even have food to eat...but look at you !! you have the basic necessities, so try to live with it, then one day god will send an angel to you(in any form....maybe a grand prize)....and you will be happy

Answer 10

Don't despair. Try to remerber that no matter haw bad things are there really are other people worse off.
Try to focus on the positive side, like are you in good health? do you have any physical or mental disabilities, if you can answer no to these and other similar questions it may help you to put you life into perspective. Please think positive---it really does help
Liam