i have lots of vacation time at my job. i hadn't taken much and told my wife, over the summer, i'll take one Thursday off each week. I have done that with the exception of 4th of July when I took the Friday before, the Monday and Tuesday off (leaving me to work only W, TR and F that week).
Last week, we made plans for me to be off Friday. She had to work and so we couldn't do anything together on Friday. I decided I would go ahead and work since our anniversary is coming up and I would be taking a whole week off.
We talked last Thursday and I said I wasn't taking Friday off. She got pissed and so I knew I had 2 small things to do and went in Friday morning from 8-10:30a and took the rest of the day off.
She was totally pissed off and said i chose work over her and has made a huge deal about this and has fought with me on Sat/Sun/Mon/Tuesday and last night was the thing about papers in my truck (see my other post).
What in the world is going on with her?
2006-07-20 01:53:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am not connected by cell phone or email at home. i do have a pager, but it doesn't work most of the time. i know i'm expendable but i love my job and didn't think a couple of hours was going to be a big deal.
2006-07-20 02:05:05 · update #1
talk with your wife and try to sort this out
2006-07-20 01:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by anni_shaa Yeap Yip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit back and take a look at how much you are actually working. When you take the days off, are you on the phone talking business, when you are alone with her are you talking about work, or do you have work on your mind all the time. If so, then this can be very frustrating for a wife. She needs your complete attention when you are alone with her. Since you mentioned that you have a lot of vacation time, I would suggest you plan a nice romantic get-away far from home and very, very far from work. Remember, God forbid, if anything ever happened to you, they would find a replacement for you at work within a couple of weeks, but your wife and family would never, ever be able to replace you. Take time for them.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 09:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez. She doesn't have enough to do in her life. I don't know what's going on with her, but a good rule for marriage is "don't go to bed angry". Carrying this stupid argument for an extended weekend isn't doing anyone any good.
You could always just quit your job and sit on the couch drinking beer and watching TV. Maybe if you point out the alternatives to you working, she'll shut up about it.
I assume you don't have any kids?
And it takes 2 to fight. Don't play into her hands like that. And what difference does it make if you're working when she is?
Maybe she had a surprise planned for you and you messed it up?
Sounds like you 2 need to develop better communication skills.
2006-07-20 09:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs more quality time, in general, with you ?
2006-07-20 08:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by GratefulDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋