i have a boyfriend right now, he has already 3 children from 3 different women,hes not married yet he believe that he will only if she love the girl that much, the 3 moms are just part of the history and are married to another men already.do you think i should give the chance to this guy?what if the same thing will happend? should i trust him? or what?he already propose marriage to me but im in doubt because of past relationship he really tried to please me hes so sincere bout our relationship.what must i do?
2006-07-20 01:36:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hell no, dont give em a chance, 3 babies mommas!!! That's all that needs to be said. The guy, in addition to being a financial drain on you from all of those child support checks, has shown that he has a lack of judgement. 1 or two, maybe, 3 no way.
2006-07-20 01:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have bitten by the nasty love bug yourself a couple of times. I think give him a chance. I certainly wouldn't be rushing into pregnancy. You will know straight away if this is not right for you just watch for the signs...pushing you to have children, there are little ways to tell when he is going the wrong way from you but you need to let your guard down a little too because if he really is trying to settle down you are only making it harder for him Just keep your eyes and heart open and don't get carried away with the moment of the situation and try to do the best you can. If he truly loves you he will do the same Stay on the pill tell him in time you will get pregnant but say something like we will discuss children a year after we're married if he can't accept that then that is a warning sign too good luck
2006-07-20 01:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by kabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump in headfirst, just because of his history. It goes with the sayings "It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks" and "history has a tendency to repeat itself". However, if you truly feel that he is sincere, and your current relationship with him is different than the other ones, you should give him a chance. I can even use my uncle as an example for this. He is in his 5th marriage, but this one is lasting unlike the others. So in all reality, it is possible your boyfriend has changed, and is not the same man he was in the previous relationships. You should talk to him about this and really figure out how sincere he is, and go from there. Just be cautious about your choices and do some talking first.
~Jin~
2006-07-20 01:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he interested in talking about his role in previous relationships? People can advise you in this or that, but you must make a choise and it is an important choise for you to make - because there are children involved. You need to think over some things after getting some information from him conserning his doings:
What went wrong? What was it that made him leave them - and he also left his children - remember.
If he thinks that the women didn't work hard enough to save those relationships - what does he expect from you?
If he thinks that he was wrong - made the wrong choise when chosing the other women - what makes him think you are the right one?
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Another important question for you to ask or to consider: How is he taking care of these three children? If you have a child and he leaves you - is his way of taking care of his children now OK with you? Does he pay childsupport? Does he have contact with them? Do they come see him regularily? Do they love him and want to see him?
2006-07-20 01:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure he's second and third gf(with whom he had children with) also thought he was sincere.They probably also hoped, like you, that he wouldnt do that to them.If I was in your situation, I would get myself out of that relationship.What makes you so different, that he wouldnt do the same to you?If you leave him, you'll probably be unhappy and depressed for a while, but the longer you stay with him the more it will hurt in the end if he does do the same to you.Rather be safe than sorry. I know it sucks.
2006-07-20 01:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart only you can make that desicion.His past is his past but it also says alot about hi character to.He already has 3 kids by 3 diffrent women. If he treats you good and is there for you maybe he is truly ready to settle down.But then again it could be a scam the other girls may have thought the same thing so be careful.The only thing i can say is be careful and follow your heart .and take it slow
2006-07-20 01:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you have to ask this question is enough for me to say, GET OUT NOW!!! Love is blind, so ask some close friends or realitives.. You may not like their answers but these are the people that care about you and will give you the best advice. They see and know what is going on in your life.. But, You will say, "They don't know him like I do" The truth is that you don't know him like they do.. They are not blinded by love or wispers of empty promises made in the ear during times of romance. These people see the real him, so listen..
2006-07-20 01:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem like your boyfriend could truly be commited to anything or anyone. Forget about marrying him. If he's already walked away from 3 different women, why would you think you are any different. It's his character. Unless you want to be seriously hurt, get away from him. You can do better!
2006-07-20 01:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to figure out how a person will behave, study how that person did behave.
He doesn't strike me as someone to depend on unless these past relationships were in the far past and he has better relationships recently.
I think you know the right answer.
2006-07-20 01:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by lrad1952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still young, so I don't know stuff about marriage... But I'll say leave him! His got a pattern and he'll maybe drop you. Or he'll say he doesn't want any more children etc. Somethings wrong about him. Just think that you'll be his 4th wife... It's just scary
2006-07-20 01:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋