why does a husband stop makeing love to his wife?

Answer 1

Found another woman.

Answer 2

Depression can lead to impotence, if no illness is to be blamed. Possibility of cheating? - Do you still want him? Did sex become a boring act? Do you still take care of yourselves, of how you look? Do you make him feel important? Do you have time together when you can initiate sex? Is he too stressed? Do you ever talk about it? Does he admit it? Has he come up with a possible explanation? How was it when you first got married? was he sexually interested and told you he wanted you, or did you have to initiate, ask, work for it? Some men and women are not very active, they are not asexual but do not get aroused pretty often. Can be very stressful for the partner and the marriage. The partner usually feels depressed, ugly, unattractive and like there is something wrong with them. Help is required in most cases especially if no real OPEN communication is present. Do you speak and mean the same things when you have a conversation with your husband? Good luck, but also remeber that we only live once, and there is no point in sacrificing ourselves for someone who does not accept saving! Do you have children? It is only them you should think about. You can not help someone if he does not accept he needs help, and you have to happy above all to help anybody. There is no point in victimizing yourself! What if he was an alcoholic? It is an extreme case, but it ends up in the same point,- if he does not do something about it, you cannot.

Answer 3

It may just have become too routine and gotten boring. After the first flush of excitment, many couples settle into a pattern with set times and places for sex, and the sheer everydayness of it can cause him no longer to find it exciting enough to get aroused. Try varying the location, or taking the initiative, or doing things to surprise him. Something a bit more 'naughty' than normal, like e.g. a location where there is a possibility (though only a remote one!) that you might get caught 'at it' by a stranger, or which needs him to feel it is urgent or scary may well 'bring him back to life'.

Answer 4

Is it always the husband? How many times do you initiate lovemaking? What was his/your day like? Stress at the jobs? Bills piling up? Kids outside the door seemingly ready to knock when he is in the mood? (kids make great family planners that way)

There are many reasons dear. Also life gets pretty routine and mundane. So the (sigh) sex life falls right in there as well. Compare that thought to one back in the high school days. Oi Vay! That's where the active physical effort of spicing things up comes in. Good luck!

Answer 5

my first thought is cheating but thats being stereotypical.Theres a few reasons he may not have the desire to make love to his wife. Are you guys fighting alot he could be upset about something you said or did consciecly or unconsciencly. He could be stressed from work or kids or bills that can play havoc on your love life. He could be depressed.Depression makes you lose interest in things that you normally love to do.Dont jump to conclusions that hes cheating.Talk to him find out whats going on ask him questions be there for him.And of course watch for signs that hes cheating so your not blinded by it if he is. Such as is he working late alot,is he taking more of an interest in his appearance is he being secretive?Just keep your eyes open and your ears too.Ihope everything works out for you guys.

Answer 6

This is easy to answer ! Maybe cause he is involved with someone else. Married woman tend to think that the men that they married really honor those vows. Ya'll right, wake up lady, wont happen. When this happen it may be coming to an end, or he just don't have that feeling anymore. Try dressing sexy and go around where there is other men that he sees is showing interest, promise that will open his eyes to what he have and then promise that night you will make love all night long.

Answer 7

After marriage both husband n wife hve certain responsiblities. If they r capable to handle them its k but if they cant it shows on their nature. I mean they b com rude, angry, anxious, regid n that time also they love each other but they cant express it all. Its not like that it is seen only in husbands but also in wifes. But all the days r not same. If either r in mood they can create good chemistry between them. N some times it happens that wife is in mood but husband is not or husband is in mood n wifes not. It depends on nature, situation, atmosphere.

Answer 8

It is a combination of factors.

There could be a mid-life crisis going on and his eye looks for a younger mate.

Stress robs him of both desire and ability.

ED decides to move in.

Let us not sell short his partner. She could make decisions, as he is not physically attrtactive enymore, or that his skills are suspect and she would rather not.

Her sexual needs may change as well and she just doesn't have an interest at all.

It is far more complex that not loving one another anymore.

Answer 9

Maybe he is having difficulty's becoming erect, and is afraid to share that with you.Have you talked with him? Maybe he has some issues that the two of you need to work out. Talking to him is always the first step, take it slow, and be reassuring. Two people have to work the problem out, don;t think this is your fault, or that you have to change. Talk to him, and change together.

But if he is cheating, then be aggressive, and get the heck out of there, don't let him drag you down in the same hole he is in.

Good Luck,

Answer 10

Many reasons:
Stress at work...
Thoughts about problems...
Lack of seduction by wife...
Wife not showing the pleasure/need for him...
etc.

Answer 11

One Word impotence.