my best friend thinks that i am not spending as much time with her as i used to just because there is a mew man in my life but most of the time im with him im with her at the same time but when your with someone new you spend more time with them to get to know them its not like its anything bad but you cant be with the same person all the time
2006-07-20 01:20:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Man on the bed and friend outside the house
2006-07-20 01:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just funny how a few months ago I was on the other end of this, I even asked a question about it. Now, I can't really speak for your friends but I am darn happy for my girlfriend. This has nothing to do with jealousy. It's just the way it was done. Do you just "drop" your friends now that you've found your beau or do you still hang out and give a phone call here and there? In my girlfriends case, she would call and critize the guy about the way he dresses and how tight he was with money and after that I never heard from her again. Nowadays, I guess the novelty has worn off she's starting to call and wants to be friendly. I still talk for maybe 5 minutes at a time (nothing friendly, just how's work, the kids etc.) but I keep my distance. Why? because she has shown me who she is. I am not gonna tell you what to do. All I got to say is be careful not to burn your bridges because "men come and go" but your girlfriends, if they are true, will remain forever. So maintain contact with them, hang with them now and again so that if this dude breaks your heart at least you will still have shoulders to cry on. It can be a bit lonely, if you don't.
2006-07-20 08:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is my best friend - I know it sounds cheesy and corny but true. My friends have always let me done in the past - my man has never - we want the same things. I still have lots of friends because they are important too but if I'm honest - I could live without my friends but not my man - never. Plus as I get older I realise life is too short to spend it with negative people and some of my friends think negatively, don't need that.
This is how it is in my life I know that everyone is different, but I'm being honest - my family comes first and always will.
2006-07-20 08:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by missieclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are important. Of course when you have a new man in your life, you want to spend more time getting to know him. Tell your friend to be patient as later on you will be seeing more of her. Has she got a partner or is unhappy with hers. She could be jealous. Remind her at least you are spending some time with her.
2006-07-20 08:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by MissPussUK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters make separate arrangements to meet your friend and your boyfriend, you need time alone with both of them. Secondly if your friend was a true friend she would understand that you need to spend time with your fella to get to know him, i'm sure she would expect the same from you if the roles were reversed. Try not to exclude your friend as she is the one who has been with you through your life and friends are important, but, if he is the one!!! you need to make a future with him outside of your friendship with her.
Basically, tell her how you feel, if she's a real friend she'll understand, if she doesn't understand then that should make it all clear to you.
2006-07-23 16:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is my best friend. He's always there for me in good times and bad. Friends seem to disappear when you have bad times. Believe me I experienced the disappearing act about 4 years ago. But I guess it helps to have a man that was a friend before we feel in love and he's been there for me ever since. And I know he will be there for me forever.
2006-07-20 08:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where your friend is coming from. My best mate started seeing somebody recently and i have only seen her properly 3 times in the past two and a half months. It hurts when you lose close contact with your best mate so suddenly.
I have also recently got together with a man but i've managed to split my time between mates and him. Always go out with your best mates at least once a week for a proper girls night. Show them that they still mean something to you and you aren't shutting them out for a bloke. Meaning that if your relationship with him falters the mates will still be there.
Another mate of mine has totally lost contact with all of her friends and family including myself because she met this guy of the internet and started going out with him all the time. They've bene seeing each for 8 months and have totally isolated themselves.
2006-07-20 08:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by The_Landlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend thinks anything of you she will let you spend time with your new man and stand back for a while. Don't forget though your best friend will be there forever x
2006-07-20 08:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Heffa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think "Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever" until my best friend flirted with my bf.She also said I dont spend enough time with her, but when I phone her up for a girls night, she's always with her bf.I think you should keep your friends close, but remember that you should spend time alone with your bf aswell, so I suggest that you balance their company, for instance seeing him every mon, tues, wednesday and her him the rest of the week, i dont know, go crazy!!
2006-07-20 08:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now there is a time and place for everything, and let me say you need to put your friend in her place. Cause when you are involved with someone it takes two not three to make it work. So don't bring your friend into your relationship with your boyfriend cause or we will see all three of you on Jerry Springer !
2006-07-20 08:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋