double-nationality homesickness... can anyone help?

Question

i am half american, half belgian. i live in america with my mom. when i am in the states, i am desperate to go to belgium. i go there during the vacations. a few weeks after i get in belgium, i get really homesick and can't wait to be back in america. right now i am here in belgium and i was just looking at pictures of my mom. i love my dad too but i am so sad not to be in the states right now. i don't understand why because when i trhink about it, i prefer belgium as a country. i am on the border of tears can anyone help?

thanx all but there is no possible way that my parents are getting back together bcoz my dad is re-married. i know exactly why my parents split upand i have no wish to see them back together.

Answer 1

I think your focus is for the part of your life that you do not have at any given moment.. what a dreadful waste... I would give my eye teeth to have your problem. Actually, I would rather be pretty much anywhere in Europe rather than the states, and will move there once I am not needed by aging parents.

I would try to concentrate on enjoying the moment where ever you are.. each has things you love and miss when you are not there, so concentrate on enjoying what you missed when you were not there.

I think there is something deeper that causes you to never be satisfied. I think you want your family reunited and I am assuming this is not happening or forseeable. Perhaps you could discuss this with your parents when you are with each of them and find some help with coping with what you wish would happen and what is the reality. Sometimes it helps just to understand what happened to their relationship, and know it does not always happen that way.

Answer 2

instead of being in tears, why dont you take some effective steps to unite both your mom and dad to live and settle down in anyone of the countries, as you like them both as parents and their countries too. try and win, you will surely succeed in this venture. good luck.