2006-07-20 00:20:56 · 11 answers · asked by seenu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off a caring happy relationship doesn't involve the changing of every habit of who your are. There are compromises... Open communciation here is the key.. Talk to her not us... Good luck...
2006-07-20 00:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard once that a man marries a woman hoping that she won't change and a woman marries a man hoping that he will. Both are disappointed. A woman usually does change, especially after having a child. This sometimes disappoints her husband. The man doesn't change as much with fatherhood and that disappoints the woman. Don't think I really answered your question, but gave you some food for thought. I think it's a universal, lifelong problem. Good luck anyway.
2006-07-20 00:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually a woman cannot change someone. They can try to get changes, but what happens is that by trying to change the person they are actually causing a distancing of that person, that is the change that causes the reponse you are a changed person. My husband, despite 6 years of marriage, still leaves his newspapers spread over the whole house. He carries sections of the paper to different areas of the house and then leaves them there and I have to go around behind him picking up the paper. You cannot get someone to change when they don't want to.
2006-07-20 00:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guilty of this, I was suffering from depression and didn't even realize how much I changed, my husband tried to tell me, I wouldn't listen. I kept thinking he had changed. Now it's almost too late, but I finally realized I did this and I just hope he can forgive me and hope he can see a future even after what I put him through for 5 years.
2006-07-20 00:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Freckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you fall in love, you fall in love with a person the way they are. If you feel you need to make changes in a person, then you have no reason to marry that person, because your love is not unconditional. You have set conditions. Therefore, that means you have a dislike about the person, that you think you love. If you have any dislikes at all, then you should not marry.
2006-07-20 00:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both the couple change after marriage. It's unfair to say that only the wife changes.
2006-07-20 00:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by CRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously married you for a reason. Don't change the man you were on that day. Woman are never satisfied. There really is no pleasing us.
2006-07-20 00:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only one who can make the changes is you. if you give in and change, you are accepting the fact that the change she wanted is valid. don't change, be yourself. it's the way you were when you met, and by changing, she has lost respect for you.
2006-07-20 00:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by bakbiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change people to suit themselfs...usually....they don,t like what they,ve done...they liked what they had!!..its always been the way of things...good Luck!!
2006-07-20 00:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by outback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all guilty of saying that.
2006-07-20 04:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋