Do all step parents dislike their partners kids? My ex husbands partner was fine with my kids till her kids came along then made my kids life a living hell eg: calling my 7 yr old son a ******* wee prick and more and my teenage daughter a wee cow etc,etc.....
2006-07-20 00:14:46 · 14 answers · asked by Sharon 2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She called my son this because he was in his dads house spending time with him, that was all, and that was enough to spark her off saying he should be spending time with their kids not my son, my son hadnt seen his dad for 2 weeks at this point.
2006-07-20 01:42:59 · update #1
she sounds like a moron, i have a step father and he is a better ffather than my natural one and we have always been very close. Letting her call your 7 old those things will damage his self esteem, don't let her shallowness affect his life later on. Same with your daughter, especially in the teenage years, they take things very to heart.
2006-07-20 00:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by northukstudent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step Familes are insanely tough with many unique issues. They often fail or everyone is miserable.
There is a different bond between parents and their Biological children. Othere peoples children are just that, other children. The rules and disciplines should be the same with the parents disciplining there own kids except for the basics when the other parent is not around. YOu cannot expect someone to feel and treat non bio kids as there own. That creates resentment. Alot of professionals recommend you keep relationships with step kids at the friendship level. Problem with that is, friendship is a two way street and friendships do end.
2006-07-21 10:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have three kids to a previous marriage and my man and i have two kids. My man treats my three kids as if they were his own and all the kids are treated equally. My kids love my man and call him dad. Step families can work but in the case of your children i would speak to your ex husband as children should not be treated in this way. Suggest that he visit your kids in their own home. If he refuses to his partner and this continues then maybe you could all go to some form of mediation to talk about this problem. Good luck x
2006-07-20 07:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found my step dad difficult to get on with because he joined the family so late in my life, and by that time i was probably set in my ways and didn't appreciate his new strictness.
now i'm older i can see he had a bloody tough time of it and i should have given him a break
so i dont think they do all hate the kids, they just dont know you as well as your life long parent does
2006-07-20 07:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dawny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step dad hated me and his own kids! I think the reason why thatn woman is being funny with your kids now is because she is more protective of her own kids and they are now her priority rather than your children. It is out of order what she is saying about your children...maybe you should speak with her and see why she is saying these things, it may be that your children are actually acting different as they feel that they have to compete with the 'new kids'. Maybe its worth finding out the source...Good Luck
2006-07-20 07:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess children will be children and subject to childish abuses and taunts - every child goes through it -
If the adults in thsi relationship are behaving like this, that sounds really tactless and crude and filthy -
I guess you would want your children out of this environment as they may grow to believe this kind of behaviour is acceptable -
It sad and I guess just goes to show you that you can't buy or marry into class - it's up to us to educate the ignorant.....
2006-07-20 07:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Seely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a family meeting saying how things are and everything that has happened in the past is the past and everyone WILL get on.
Be a man and put your foot down. If you don't do it now then the problems will multiply.
2006-07-20 07:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Les-Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not true.. I think she needs help.. people tend to like there own kids better.. because there is a unseen bond between them.. but treating step kids worse or poorly like that is just wrong and very immature.. sounds like she needs to grow up some to me..
2006-07-20 07:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dad had 7 children and he married this woman tha had 4 children.. well after she moved in she started changing the way we lived.. she let the hem down on all our clothes but her girls could wear their clothes like thay were.. it was different.. but before long 1 sister run away.. and soon all of us kids went to my moms and left my dad with just his new wife and her kids.. it seemed like she was treating us as she was a army warden or something...so we soon left ....i think kids just do not take to step mothers very well especially when they come in and take over like she did...
2006-07-20 07:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum (actually step-mum) bought me up from the age of nine - I have a blood sister two years older and two step sisters - one the same age (by three days) and one a bit younger. My Dad and step-mum bought us up all the same and call us their four girls so as I ar as I am aware she doesn't dislike us - some step parents are better then real parents
2006-07-20 07:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by elmleaquack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋