My Wifes mother?

Question

My mother in law seduced me.She asked me to come to her house to repair a ceiling fan.When I got there she was very sexy and dressed in a nightie sort of thing.I was weak and ..it happened. I have a hard time now attending family functions,she tries to get me alone..I need this to stop...Should I tell my wife about her mother and let the pieces fall where they may ,or keep it to myself

Answer 1

no way,you should have control yrself u r not a kid!!

its yr fault too.anyways if u think that this is making yr life miserable than stay away from her or divorced yr wife.

as far as what happened than forget it,sometimes things just happnens.even with me (as am divorced and live with my son),my son saw me naked when i was changing clothes.......................so things sometimes happens

u can chat with me if u want!!

Answer 2

Best 2 get it out in the open at a time of UR choosing.
It will come out eventually, family secrets have a habit of doing that just when U think it's finished it'll return 2 bite U.
Do U want 2 keep UR wife?
She must know what a man-eater her Mum is, trust me they know full well & U may have been used as the ultimate Pay-back.
Don't let it fester away. B honest & wait 4 the tears/shouting/accusations 2 fly.
Explain it as U've explained it on here & hope that every1 behaves like grown adults.

Answer 3

This is tough, and I wouldn't take just anyone's advice...your marriage could be at stake.

Look at it from a woman's point of view. This is her mom, the only one she will ever have. She won't be so willing to take your side, even if she loves you. Chances are her mother has made more sacrifices for her.

I would seek the help of a mediator. Perhaps there is a minister you can turn to for advise, or a marriage counselor (alone)...they may suggest the two of you eventually come in together for a session to address this.

Also, try to get proof of the seduction (but don't go out of your way). Record voicemail messages on a tape, keep notes...or other things that might help you out, and help her to see that you didn't act alone.

And, no matter what happens...respect her. If she finds this out..she will not only feel betrayed by you, but also by her mother. This would be hard for any woman to deal with.

Honesty is very important, and you need to start working on this. Because, if you keep rejecting momma, she will get mad, seek revenge...and tell. If she finds out, she needs to find this out from you. It would be like taking 4 steps back, but gaining one step just because you got honest with her and came out with it.

Be careful, and I wish you the best!

Answer 4

you silly silly man. how could you have done this. it is betrayel of the highest order.
you do need to tell your wife and then get some counselling together. to help your wife get over the anger and hurt. and to help you realise where you went wrong. counselling will also help yo guys repair the damage and keep your relationship strong in future.
once you have told your wife, you both need to go speak to her mother and let her know that your wife knows what happend. hopefully this will put an end to her coming onto you again.
i still think your an idiot for doing what you did, but i hope you manage to work things.
all the best to you and your wife

Answer 5

you messed up dude.. either talk to the mother in law and tell her to stop or you will tell your wife.. which being that close.. will most likely get out anyway.. so it's better your wife hears it from you then someone else down the road..

Answer 6

I think u need to tell your mother-in-law to leave you alone....that you're sorry, you made a mistake and now she needs to leave you alone. If she still insists on attempting to seduce you, then tell your wife......Good luck!!! Mail me if u wanna talk....

Answer 7

seduction is not an excuse. You shouldn't have done what you did and you ought to face the consequences. Tell your wife and see what she says. she will probably be devastated and end it with you, which you probably deserve.

Nobody likes a cheater.

Answer 8

don't get guilty about it as you have already done it. now don't get emotional about it whenever you see her. avoid her and try to be in least contact with her and don't commit the blunder of telling it to anyone the last person on this earth to know should be your wife.

Answer 9

your wife may not believe you unless you have proof so you may need to get this stuff on video otherwise you are going to really damage your relationship with you wife to where she may leave you

Answer 10

Disturbing....I think you should talk to your wife about this uh...instance and then maybe you three could sit down and talk about it although i'm sure your mother-in-law will probably deny it.