2006-07-19 22:47:09 · 17 answers · asked by scrdykat1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not worry, he (and you) may not know it, but this is actually a normal phase in marriage. There was a very good article in the Times recently about this, quoting from a new book on marriage by a marital therapist:
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,23789-2238749.html
The book evidently discusses how marriage is a process by which we come to know someone else's mind and how to coexist on deeper and deeper levels -- these levels don't just involve passion, but also not unsurprisingly conflict, need to assert independence, periodic loss of identity -- for some people this includes (most unfortunately) infidelity. To be in a marriage when it is going through one of these harder stages may not be fun and may take years, but it is only a stage which will lead to yet others, some worse, some better. If you can get through difficult things, new higher levels will open up to you both. There are ways to revitalise the relationship, but it's better to comprehend that this normal process is at the heart of things while you do it.
2006-07-19 23:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Katrine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beyond the age of 60 very few women are physically attractive to men. He could mean that even though you are no longer pretty to him, that doesnt matter to him anymore because he understands that what you have is more important than what you dont have. Even if he was cheating on you (and there is nothing to suggest that he is) it sounds like he still wants to be with you and not lose what you do have. If there was no moral issue with having sex outside of marriage, all men would want to do it, so dont take it to heart even if it is true that he is cheating.
2006-07-19 22:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by mmf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get slimmer & attractive figures before its too late coz he might turn his interest in someone else. All husbands out there will be definately prefer young and attractive slimmer body than their own wives at home because its a human nature. However, he will never leave you for sure.
2006-07-19 23:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear it is kinda obvious, He is screwing someone else but still wants the comfort of coming home in case she walks out on him then he loses nothing .. Not hard to figure that one out now is it..Either that or you have gained 100 pounds since you married him.. take your pick something is wrong with that picture.. sorry about that
2006-07-19 22:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch! sounds like he may be cheating. But there may be other factors involved. Maybe he needs viagra. Maybe he is experiencing some sort of sexual problem? I hate to ask, but have you gained a lot of weight? Has he gained a lot of weight. Talk to him, look him in the eye, and ask him what is the problem. Good luck.
2006-07-19 22:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have changed a great deal since you've been married and you need to try and see what he thought was sexy about you before and do new things with him
2006-07-20 00:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you but is trying to shift the blame to you. Get to a counselor and/or a lawyer.
2006-07-19 22:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sahel578 is a little cynical i think.
it doesnt meen he is cheating or shifting blame, but i do think you need to look into counseling. it is possible eventually he could turn to cheating for lack of sex drive with you.
2006-07-19 22:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by JCCamel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just been there myself and we've just separated. What this means is that he is bored with the marriage but feels guilty ... its just a matter of time before he strays ...
2006-07-19 23:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wanna make u feel better despite the decision he already make, that is to leave u
2006-07-19 22:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mickazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋