to pick her up before the wedding. The wedding is down the road from my house! I dont want to drive to her house and back. Why dont she just get a cab or a lift to my house! Im so vexed. Its like she is taking the piss. I mean, im always running late, why would i want to go get her first when i can just get ready and go straight to the wedding just down the road. I dont know how to say no without sounding rude, but what she is asking me is ruder i reckon! Im peeved man! The wedding is in a months time!
2006-07-19 22:24:20 · 15 answers · asked by smart_babe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the way she said it like its not out of my way pissed me off, she does things to vex me sometimes like that. Expecting me to drive to places "cos she dont know the way" etc. Well il direct you, you know, feel used!
2006-07-19 22:34:43 · update #1
Tell her honestly and logically that it would make more sense doing the transfer by your method to the wedding i.e. she come to you then you both move on to the wedding.
Then slap the ***** in the face for being so god damn stupid.
2006-07-19 22:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
Don't give her the ride if you will regret it and be upset about it. It isn't worth it. First of all, ask yourself why it really bothers you. I mean, it really isn't a big deal for a friend to ask for a ride. Is there something else going on???
Then, consider asking her WHY she wants a ride - does she want to drink, so she wants to be safe and have you drive? Does she not want to look silly without a date? Does she dislike social situations? Does she really like your company and want to hang out and talk some? There could be a really good reason why she doesn't just go by herself.
After you look at the above items, and you still do not want to give her a ride, then don't. Here are some reasons why-
- I am always running late and I wouldn't want to make you late too.
- I am on a tight schedule that day, and don't have enough time to go to your house first.
- I want to go help the bride/groom/family, so I am going early.
- I have to pick-up dress/cake/gift/another friend right before the event.
- I know that you only live 15 minutes away, but I am really trying to save my gas money. You know how expensive it is...
- Since I live so close to the location of the event, I am just going to drive right there. (Or even walk!)
- I would really like to pick you up and spend time with you, but I just can't see how I can do that and get everything else done on time.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-19 22:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by AnnaB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if this friend of yours asks you a few too many favours and that s why this time, even though it's not really a big thing, you are feeling so vexed (as you put it). I don't think that 15 minutes is that big of a deal but the underlying issues you seem to have between you need to be sorted. You need to sit down as adults and explain to her the way your feeling and tell her that you feel she is taking you for granted all the time. If she is a true friend, she will understand what you are saying and the friendship will be a lot stronger because of the honesty. Don't be patronising though, it'll make things worse.
2006-07-19 22:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a friend who does the exact same thing, and shes about a 25-30min drive. She just seems to expect me to do whatever she wants all the time, which I don't. You have to be firm with her and try not to feel guilty about saying no to her. Maybe suggest to her to stay at yours the night before then you can get ready together? You could pick her up and she could pay for a take away or something, or like you said she could get a taxi/bus. Try to calm down first of all then say to her it is out of your way and is there any other way you can solve this
2006-07-19 23:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rather ridiculous for her to ask u to do that. But u could communicate that to her without being rude. Do let her know how u usually feel when she asks these unreasonable favours of u. It's not healthy for u to harbour these kind of feelings about ur friend within u. She has a right to know. If she's a true friend, she'll probably understand and tone it down.
She could come stay over at ur place a night before the wedding(that's if u dont mind)?
2006-07-19 22:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is so rude about 15 minutes between friends. She just asked to share a ride in your car, not on your boyfriend. LIghten up, go to the wedding and have a good time. Maybe get ready a little earlier so that you're NOT running late.
2006-07-19 22:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by rsqur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine the way you experience is incorrect in any respect. i'm a bride also and easily one of my bridesmaids are due some months beforehand the marriage. I plan to purely let her attend the gown setting up with all the different ladies in basic terms to get her opinion yet she ought to purchase her gown on each occasion. If the bride replaced into somewhat your chum she does not push those issues on you and the different bridesmaid shouldn't take care of you that way both. perhaps you need to voice your difficulty and tell them the way you experience.
2016-12-10 12:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey friend if u think tat u r friendds plz be favourable for her
if u r forsed to behave like friends then say tat ur mom wana send u to sum other place and u will meet her after few decided minutes saying so u can ask her to be at ur home tat will not waste ur time
2006-07-19 22:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by miths 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight with her-- perhaps make a suggestion- to meet half way. Tell her that you think it would be better to meet her there. She is just being bone idle so don't allow her to take the pee, just be clear about how you feel and tell her calmly
2006-07-19 22:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her, hey why dont u stay in my house the night b4 the wedding and we can go together?
2006-07-19 22:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by lil miss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋